Bullying Q&A
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Recovery from the Trauma of Bullying
I feel your pain. Bullying can cause a traumatic reaction. That is what you seem to be describing. Trauma can have long term effects, changing your sensitivity to stimulation, the level of background anxiety you feel, and your tolerance of that anxiety. Too much stimulation makes you irritable. You
Answered by David Johnson
Sweet Daughter Always Bullied
Your daughter is very lucky to have an attentive and caring parent. You have been available and attentive, but it's clear it is time to signal a change in approach. Encourage her to talk about her experiences with bullying, get the history and the details including and most importantly how she feels
Answered by David Johnson
Bullies Kids Parents Protect
I don't think there is a simple solution here. I commend you for trying to work with the parents, but since that has not helped, you have to try other authorities. You don't say what sort of living situation you have. If you live in a community of apartments or condos/townhouses, you can try to appr
Answered by David Johnson
Higher authorities are needed to stop this boy from bullying you
You MUST discuss this with your parents, number one. Your parents MUST go to your school and discuss this with the Headmaster. This BULLYING has got to stop. NO, YOU SHOULD NOT USE YOUR UNCLES' BRASS KNUCKLES. Listen to what you are saying about him --- this cannot be stopped by you alone. His behav
Answered by Dr. Shirley Schaye
Breathing Exercises when Bullied
You are absolutely right about deep breathing. It sounds like your adrenaline starts going crazy because of the fear of being bullied and the fastest way to calm down adrenaline is more oxygen. It's important to breathe from your diaphragm and not from your chest. I would slowly bring in as much air
Answered by Jill Palmer
Bullied at Work
This very frustrating situation is all too common in work places. It's fortunate that you have some support and validation at work, but your coworkers' worry about the risks involved are all too real. Your friend's offer to bully the bully is likely illegal and could get you in a lot of trouble in b
Answered by David Johnson
Getting bullied
I'm so sorry the kids and some teachers are mean. I don't know why they feel the need to intimate others. You have every right to be at that school and shouldn't be intimated or forced to move away. I do believe life gets easier once you are out of school. Most people will grow out of bullying once
Answered by Jill Palmer
Being Bullied can be helped with Psychoanalytically oriented Psychotherapy
It's hard to say, not knowing your brother, whether he is asking for it or not. I can though say from what you have described that your brother does have problems that if he got himself into the right kind of therapy it would help him enormously. Now, again, I cannot say why your brother behaves the
Answered by Dr. Shirley Schaye
You don't need to be alone with your problems!
I am so...ooo very sorry to hear about the struggles you are dealing with. It is sad that the guidance counselor could be of no help to you. If the school does not take action with those that are bullying you, there will be nothing that you can do to stop them. The school administrators would need t
Answered by Dr. Shirley Schaye
Daughter Being Bullied
Tough situation. You are the parent and have to trust your parental instincts on what to do. If you feel contacting the other parents is in the best interest of your child, you and your wife can discuss how to proceed in doing that. Your daughter might get mad at you but you are the parent. You have
Answered by Jill Palmer
A Scary Neighbor
I'm not sure this is the right place to get on this manner. I think you should talk to a lawyer and get some advice on your legal rights. Report any harassment or mistreatment or mismanagement of his dogs to the police. Keep a running log of the behavior so as to build a case for harassment includin
Answered by David Johnson
When does teasing become harassment?
A single teasing remark might be overlooked. A continuing pattern is harmful. Your teacher should be held to a higher standard because she is a school official and an authority figure. I think your friends have confirmed that your teacher has stepped beyond reasonable boundaries. Make a transcript o
Answered by David Johnson
Bullies
This is a tough situation. One of the hardest decisions for a parent is trying to figure out how to protect a child. If the older brother goes and talks to them and then ends up in a fight himself then it has only increased the possibility of him getting in trouble and has taught those that are bull
Answered by Kelly Miller
Bully bully or not?
Hello, It's a touchy situation to address your concerns with family friends. And then it's more complicated because your son is giving you different signals at different times. At one point you say he is upset and then at others you say he doesn't care. It appears you recognize that he changes his f
Answered by Prof. Jane Ballis
Verbal Abuse on the Job
I can't give you legal advice about whether your bosses behavior is illegal. However, you should be able to talk to an attorney in your jurisdiction and get an answer. I urge you to begin looking for another job. Someone as abusive as he is is very likely willing to fire you for little or no reason.
Answered by David Johnson
Bullying in the Family
This is a very complex situation so I'm not sure I can do it justice in a question and answer format. You don't describe what the "bullying" is, rather you use words like cruel. So from the information you provide, I can't give you a good answer about your reaction. The fact that your son wants to v
Answered by David Johnson
My Daughter Is a Teen Bully – How Do I Make Her Stop?
The hardest job in this world is being a parent. The pain of witnessing their struggles and the feelings of helplessness are one of life's biggest challenges. So many parents ignore the signs of trouble in their children out of fear and embarrassment and the problems is left for the child to discove
Answered by David Johnson