Question
Hi there ad thank you for your excellent question. Short answer - you're moving on to a better life and it's very likely that he will continue to decline and have less good stuff in his life. Your ex sounds like a manipulative man who did not take accountability for his failures in the relationship. This makes closure difficulty to attain and it's very difficult to forgive someone who is not sorry. When you find yourself feeling guilty, please remind yourself that you've done nothing wrong.
As Mandy Hale said, "It is not selfish to love yourself, to take care of yourself, or to make your happiness a priority. It is necessary."
Please be extra good to you. Blessed be.
About the Expert
Jim LaPierre
LCSW, CCS
Brewer, United States of America
Specialties
Anger Management, Gay Lesbian Issues, Spirituality, Divorce, Compulsive Disorders, Trauma and PTSD, Life Coaching, Addiction or Substance Abuse, OCD, Mood Disorders, Parenting, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence, Anxiety or Fears, ADHD, Impulse Control Disorders, Relationship Issues, Women, Loss or Grief, Eating Disorders, Depression, Finding Your Purpose in Life
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