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Who gets looked after
I am 46 and just recently remarried to a wonderful woman who takes care of her elderly mother with dementia at home. Because of this we have joined households at her house. We have no children. I knew what I was getting into or at least I thought I did but now that I have lived here for about 7 months I feel like I can't take it anymore. I feel like we either have to separate or her mother has to go to a nursing home. Her mother is verbally abusive and very demanding. I feel terrible to put my wife in this position and so I have been putting it off but I am at my breaking point. I believe that I make her happy and her mother does not. Is it wrong for me to try to get her mother out of the house even though I think that will make her happier?
Read answer →Sexual Experience
I am 28 and I have never even kissed a girl. I have no confidence around girls and it is so humiliating to be a virgin at my age. I really feel like a loser. I can’t even talk to strippers who are paid to at least pretend to like me as they try to sell me lap dances. What do I do?
Read answer →A sense of humor
OK so no one really likes me at work but the reason why is because people think I am an asshole. I saw this old lady drop her groceries today and I thought it was funny and laughed and then all my workmates looked at me like I was really mean. One person said I was an asshole. I do not like it when people do not like me. But usually people do not like me. I do not know how to change the way I am because I am just the way I am. Is there any hope that I can change?
Read answer →What you do really annoys me!
I really love my wife but I don’t always love living with her. There are a thousand little things that she does that irritate me to no end. I like to eat my breakfast in peace in the morning but the sound of her chewing her bagel and cream cheese is horrendous. Petty stuff right? I know I am being stupid but I find that all the little annoyances lead me to treat her less affectionately and that this has ripple effects that run deep. I get it now how they talk about how one partner leaving the toothpaste lid off the tube can end a marriage. The problem is stupid but I can’t deny its impact. The problem is wholly mine as well, so I want to change for the better. The problem is I don’t know how to. What can I do to be less bothered by these trivial things that right now bother me so much? I am willing to work with a professional if necessary.
Read answer →Repairing my brain
I am interested in improving my memory, concentration, working memory and quick thinking. I feel as though I am not as sharp as I used to be because of the years of hard drinking I am just recently leaving behind me. I see on the internet there are a number of programs that are supposed to improve my intelligence. Before I waste my time (and or money) with any of these, I would like some reassurance that ‘brain training’ is something that is actually going to work. Do you know if it is possible to really improve my intelligence? If so, do you have any program or method to recommend? I am 45. I do not get much intellectual stimulation at work.
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