Of All that You Can Choose, Choose You

Hello and thank you for your question. I am assuming that what you're describing is not something that happened only over a very short period of time but rather has become an increasingly problematic state of affairs. Your husband is clearly experiencing problems that result directly from his drinking and yet he seems to show no intention of stopping.

You asked him to consider divorce as an attempt to get his attention/scare him into taking this more seriously. This isn't what you want and yet the desperation behind your words shows how very much you're hurting and struggling to accept your powerlessness over his choices. Please consider what your resolve is - if he is not willing to stop, what are you willing to do to protect yourself and your interests? I'm wishing there was something I could tell you that would change your husband but there simply isn't. Instead I say - of all that you could choose - choose you. Choose to invest in what you can do and not what you cannot. His behavior strongly suggests that he is an alcoholic and until he chooses to get help then you are simply along for the ride and that s a heartbreaking place to be. Please be good to you and please listen to your intuition.