Motivation through Depression
Loren Gelberg-Goff Says...
You are certainly thinking outside the box and I commend your creativity. I might suggest, however, something that would not cause you both additional stress. I am not sure where you live or what temperatures we're talking about in terms of household temps, so I don't know if adjusting a thermostat would negate the efforts you are talking about. Does your wife have friends who are around during the day who can be called into assistance? I would ask friends to each take a day to show up at the house to go out with your wife. If friends are not available on a regular basis and your wife is really spending days home alone, then I would investigate local volunteer organizations where she can either volunteer,or have volunteers come to pick her up to bring her to a center where she can either participate in activities, receive counseling, participate in support groups, etc.
I don't know how severe your wife's depression is and if she has been evaluated by a mental health professional. There are non medication treatment modalities that might be beneficial for her as well. If you haven't done so already, you can explore neurofeedback, Emotional Freedom Technique, hypnotherapy, as well as mindfulness-based therapy. Acupuncture is also a possibility for dealing with depression.
I appreciate the efforts you are putting forth to help your wife, and I hope that you, also are getting support for yourself. It is very stressful living with someone who is depressed (or who has any chronic dis-ease) and you as the care-giver need support to maintain your own mental, emotional and physical health. Look for local support groups, workshops, organizations (NAMI) that can provide the help you so richly deserve.
Additionally, there are a number of books available that can be helpful to both you and your wife. I really like Louise Hay's You Can Heal Your Life and the work by Byron Katie. I do hope that this gives you some additional ideas and help as you move forward in your search to help your wife through this difficult time. Please contact me if I can be of further assistance.
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