Social Issues
Calling Child Protective Services: Rock and a hard place
Answered by Rabbi Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C
Question
Are children better off with a parent who is a cocaine addict and who is a little bit neglectful but who obviously still loves her kids or in a foster care home? I am a teacher of a 9 year old and I know the mom has a drug problem. Her children sometimes come to school in dirty clothes and without lunches or appropriate school supplies. I do not know if I report the neglect I have seen if the children are going to end up in a better or worse situation.
Your question is probably only theoretical, and I'll explain why in a moment. It's a tough call. We know that the foster care system has some serious shortcomings. At the same time, a 9-year-old in the care of a cocaine addict is in danger on multiple counts.
That said, you have a responsibility to call child protective services and let them make the determination. Is this a perfect solution? No - but it's the best one we have, and what's more, it's the law.
About the Expert
Rabbi Raffi Bilek
LCSW-C
Baltimore, Maryland
Specialties
Child or Adolescent Issues, Life Coaching, Spirituality, Parenting, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence, Relationship Issues, Finding Your Purpose in Life
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