Mom and 15yo Daughter Suspicious and Distrustful, Always Fighting

I can feel the pain in your words. What courage you have to face this issue and recognize that you are a part of the problem! So few parents can do that. Recognition of the problem is the first step to solving it.

It's apparent from what you say, you will need some help to get through this. The distrust and misinterpretation is a major barrier to effective parenting. Have you told your daughter that you miss the relationship you had at one time? Try telling her and ask her what she thinks you and she can do to get back to that point again. That may give you enough rapport to get her cooperation to find some help.

I understand paying for counseling is a barrier. Check out your church and see if there is a qualified counselor offering free service. Other alternatives are your daughter's school, a local family service agencies, runaway youth programs, mental health centers, and training programs for counselors attached to local university graduate psychology or social work programs. There you will find at least sliding scale fee or even free service thought that may be limited. If you have health insurance, you may have coverage for counseling you don't know about.