Sounds Like a Diamond in the Rough

Question

I am a 27 year old nerd and I say this not in an ironic way that means I am actually cool – I am nerdy in a way that people don’t find endearing. I am totally socially awkward and though I do have a sense of humor most of my jokes are based on internet stuff that most normal people just don’t have a clue about. I have a few friends but we are like the leftover losers and hang out together because no one else will have us – I honestly don’t know if I even like my friends. I spend all day on a computer because I can’t think of anything better to do. My life basically sucks so I get drunk every night so I don’t have to think about how depressing it is as I fall asleep. Now I am an alcoholic as well as a nerd. I think about going to AA but even if it worked it wouldn’t solve my main problem which is my total social inadequacy and that is what makes me so miserable. What do I do?

Lita Perna · Accepted Answer

If you spend all day on your computer does that mean you don’t have a job?

If not, why not?

You say you can’t think of anything better to do. Why not get a job if you don’t have one?

You say your life sucks.

You sound to me like you are depressed.

The way out of this rut is to find a counselor you can relate to.

Alcohol is a depressant and will make you more depressed and more isolated.

I have three comments about your ‘social inadequacy’.

1. You sound like you have low self esteem.

2. A therapist will help you with this.

3. Your ‘total social inadequacy’ will be charming and endearing to someone who ‘gets you’.

Please think about seeing a counselor/therapist.

You don’t have to live this way.

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