Lita Perna
VerifiedMA, Family and Community Counseling
Counselor/Therapist
Klamath Falls, USA
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About Lita Perna
I have devoted my career and my life to helping others. My family has been touched by addiction, mental illness and suicide. My life fell apart when my parents divorced when I was 11 years old., I raised myself from that time while coping with my mentally ill mother. When I was a mixed up young adult, I learned that I could change my behavior and my life by what I thought.
For a time I was a high school drop out. When I changed my mind about who I was and who I wanted to be, I finished school and worked my way through college and graduate school.
What I do
I have been working in the field of addiction and mental health since 1987. I was first certified as a substance abuse counselor in 1995. I have spent twenty five years helping people with chronic illness, addictions and mental health issues as a rehabilitation professional, addiction specialist, family therapist and clinical mental health counselor in outpatient clinics and inpatient residential facilities across the U.S. I specialized in helping people overcome dysfunctional repetitive behaviors. Whether you have concerns about your teen, love addiction, codependence, compulsions, dependencies, cravings or addictions, I can help.
My story
I have devoted my career and my life to helping others. My family has been touched by addiction, mental illness and suicide. My life fell apart when my parents divorced when I was 11 years old., I raised myself from that time while coping with my mentally ill mother. When I was a mixed up young adult, I learned that I could change my behavior and my life by what I thought.
For a time I was a high school drop out. When I changed my mind about who I was and who I wanted to be, I finished school and worked my way through college and graduate school.
Why life is worth living
You can always change your mind and focus on what you love and what gives your live meaning and happiness.
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Answered Questions(39)
Who is Responsible?
Are junk food companies morally responsible for the obesity epidemic when they do things like market unhealthy products to kids and conduct massive scientific studies to find ways to get us to eat more of stuff that’s really killing us? Or is it just a personal responsibility issue? Are food companies like tobacco companies? I am interested to learn of a food expert’s take on this situation. Thanks in advance for your response.
Read answer →The Real Question: The Work of Recovery: Who is Responsible?
I am looking for a drug treatment center for my husband, who is currently at Righteous Oaks in MS. All it is is preaching, no 'meat' at all. He will be there until January. He then wants to go to a place where he can work the 12 steps, and have one on one counseling and really work on his issues. We have no insurance. And I am unemployed. Is there a place that is affordable? Thanks so much! Jenna
Read answer →Co-Dependent
I am married to a man (Oct 2,2012) who i knew enjoys his liquor. sometimes he drinks so much he looks like he could do damage to myself and my 13 yr old son.like he is a different person. He has threatened me and said he "doesnt want to be here" Of course he says he doesnt remember the next day. (Black outs?) Saturday he busted through our sliding glass door. (he couldnt believe he did this but he has stitches and the bill to have the glass replaced-over 300 dollars- but i will of course be paying for this) I have been looking through sights for places he can go but they all want 75 to 91 dollars a day for intreatment. i only make sixty dollars a day. He has been unemployeed since 2007. is there a place in colorado spring Co he can go to as an out patient? Virtually free if not completely? He hasnt been to a doctor to say he is depressed but i know what i see and he is.
Read answer →Eating Disorder or A Fad?
My 15 year old daughter is very smart and talented but she is also very driven and I worry that she cannot seem to relax very well and smile more. I am worried that she may have an eating disorder but I am not sure how to tell. First she went vegetarian and that was fine and then she went vegan and that was getting extreme but OK and now she is avoiding gluten as well and it is getting pretty hard for her to eat with the family at all. She does not mind eating alone but it bothers me. She says she is opposed to harming any kind of animal and that gluten gives her an upset stomach. I am worried she is using her dietary restrictions to mask unhealthy eating. How do I know if she is? She is quite thin but I do not think she is anorexia thin yet. Is there some way to tell for sure?
Read answer →Bipolar Hell
My brother is really bad bipolar and he has tried to commit suicide before. He was fine before going away to college but he had a breakdown there and for the last few years it has been really up and down and difficult for my parents. Right now my parents are forcing him to take his medications and to see his doctors. They practically force feed him sometimes. He keeps saying the meds aren't helping and that his doctors won't listen . He is stable now but not happy and not his old self. Our house is like a jail and he is the prisoner. Maybe I should be happy that it is not like it was when it was bad but I just want him back like he used to be. My parents say he isn't really able to make good decisions right now but I think they are so scared of him trying to kill himself again that they will do anything to prevent that and that his being happy is way down on the list compared to that no matter how medicated up and miserable he is. It is so screwed up that he can't just be like he was before anymore. He asked me last night if he should leave home and I said of course not. But now that I have slept on it and tossed and turned all night I feel like what he has now is not quality of life. I am 17 and my brother is 22. He is an adult but no one really seems to count his opinion since he is the 'crazy' one. No one values my opinion either. I want to help him but I don't know what to do? He probably can't work and be on his own but what he has here is not good either. Is there somewhere someone like my brother can go to have a better quality of life?
Read answer →Frightened Father
I have a secret cocaine habit that is getting out of control. I don't know how things got so crazy so fast. I did a few lines at a party after like 20 years of not thinking about the stuff like a year ago and now I can't go a few hours without a bump. The problem is I am a single dad of 2 teenage girls. I know I need to go to rehab but if I do I am going to lose custody - but if I don't go I don't now what is going to happen. I feel so squeezed and the only thing way I know how to deal with this problem doesn't seem to be helping any more. I tried NA and it was a joke. I went out to my car after the meeting and got high right away. I think my girls know something is off with me but I don't think they know what the problem is. How do I get better when I just can't get away for more than a couple of days?
Read answer →Does Smoking Pot Make You Lazy?
Is there any actual evidence that smoking pot makes people lazy. I am a daily smoker making tons of cash in the business world and a daily joint is a great way to decompress from the log hours I WORK! I resent it when media portrays people who use marijuana as lazy slackers and I would like to know if there is anything beyond LAZY journalistic stereotyping behind this.
Read answer →Sounds Like a Diamond in the Rough
I am a 27 year old nerd and I say this not in an ironic way that means I am actually cool – I am nerdy in a way that people don’t find endearing. I am totally socially awkward and though I do have a sense of humor most of my jokes are based on internet stuff that most normal people just don’t have a clue about. I have a few friends but we are like the leftover losers and hang out together because no one else will have us – I honestly don’t know if I even like my friends. I spend all day on a computer because I can’t think of anything better to do. My life basically sucks so I get drunk every night so I don’t have to think about how depressing it is as I fall asleep. Now I am an alcoholic as well as a nerd. I think about going to AA but even if it worked it wouldn’t solve my main problem which is my total social inadequacy and that is what makes me so miserable. What do I do?
Read answer →TRY
Know any rehabs that work with couples who are addicts, and that are free? My boyfriend and I want to go to rehab but we are homeless and cannot afford to pay, and we want to go together...
Read answer →How to Git a Girl
Can therapy help me get better at getting girls? I am girl getting retarded at the moment and I'm not getting any unless I break down and decide that I do want to pay for it after all. Is there such a thing as pick up counseling? This sounds frivolous but for me it is actually a very big problem. I am alone and miserable.
Read answer →Classic codependency
Hello- I don't know where to start or how far back to go.......I have a 31 yr old son who was diagnoised as a child with ADD. He has struggled lots in life to fit in socially etc. He was on ADD meds as a young child and then nothing for years. About 5 years ago I helped him find a Dr. specializing in helping adults like him and he was put on Adderol. That Dr. has disappaered and my son has slowly become an out of control addict. He has slowly incresed his dose to 90 mg's a aday and he's always diffucult but crazy diffucult when he runs out every few months and can't get a script for a few days - he becomes: mean, vilolent , very very agitated and is right now about to loose everything in his life- his wife and kids- his relationship with most of his close family- his job. He is banned from several public places and an airline for abusive language. He lives in Co. and I in Fl. I was up there last week visiting when he had one of his epidsods and one thing led to another and I brought him back with me. He is in a motel room alone detoxing. He is very strong willed and this is what and how he wanted it. He has a great additude about the process and feels all he needs is 3 to 5 days of being alone to get it out of his system. When he has gone days without Atterol before he feels he flipped out because of his poor quality marriage/ homelife. He felt like all she did was nag him and belittle him and that provoked his bad behavior. He has never been violent to a person... only verbally abbusive and has been known in those times to break a few things. He has me convinced that he can handle this and I am not to call him- just quietly bring him some dinner each night and let him sleep and get it out of his system. I have been reading a lot online and I fear for the weeks- months ahead for my son. Do you know much about this? Any suggestions? He has been in the motel for about 24 hrs now. Are there danger signs... Please help if your able. Sincerely, Barbara Altman
Read answer →Troubled Teen, Worried Mom
My son has had a difficult time since we moved to Miami at the start of his freshman year in high school. He is a little shy but for the first 2 years we lived here he really had no friends at all to talk to and I know he war really hurting and alone. I tried to get him involved in extracurricular activities but it never really worked out. Then a few months ago he started getting phone calls and going over to friends' houses even to sleep over and I was thrilled and I never thought to worry because he has always been a very good kid. Now last week the vice principal called and told me he has been suspended for marijuana at school and for probable gang membership. When she said gang membership I almost fell over on the floor. We are a middle class professional family and I just never saw this coming. My son denies that he is in a gang but he is really defensive of his new friends and kind of secretive about it. What am I supposed to do now? How do I get a really good but really lonely teenage kid to stop hanging with his only friends? I have forbidden that he associate with them anymore but he would not promise me that he would no longer hang with them.
Read answer →I AM Down Down Down
I am 16 and I am very depressed. I don't have any close friends to talk to and I have to drag myself out of bed each day and I don't even know if it's worth the bother to try and pretend like everything is still OK and when inside I feel grey grey grey, nothing but blah and no energy and hopelessness. I have been feeling like this for at least a year. I tried talking to my dad about how I am feeling but he just told me to get involved in after school sports and that was the end of the conversation. He doesn't hear or doesn't want to hear what I am saying. I was asking for some help and he recommended after school volleyball. I don't know where to turn. the guidance counselors at my school are a joke and I am not old enough to do anything on my own. How do I make anything change when I am all on my own?
Read answer →Marijuana as a Learning Aid?
I am a 19 year old college student with ADD. I have tried several ADD/ADHD medications over the years but I have never found the benefits to be worth the side effects which I do not like and the health risks I believe are minimized by doctors. I am not a big drinker or drug user but I was introduced to marijuana this summer. To my surprise, I found that small doses of marijuana like just a few tokes really helped me focus a lot more and didn't seem to have any negative side effects other than making me feel a little more tired than usual a few hours later. I am not someone who likes to party or get high very much but I am interested in doing well at school and my ADD makes it more difficult. I am considering trying marijuana as a daily before class medication to improve my concentration, but I am worried that its effects on memory may negate its beneficial effects on concentration. At very low doses, do I need to be worried about memory side effects from daily marijuana use? Do you know if marijuana has ever been used as a learning aid medication before?
Read answer →Self Esteem From the Inside Out
My 14 year old daughter is battling with anorexia. She is in treatment. She is such a smart and beautiful girl but she has always been such a perfectionist and anxious and she has never had high self esteem and this all works against her in her recovery. How can I help her improve her self esteem? I try to tell her how smart and talented she is but since I am mom I just don't think she listens to me. I am looking for great ideas for her to raise her self esteem on her own.
Read answer →Depths of Denial
My husband's son is a chronic alcoholic and the entire family feels he is also bipolar or something similar.. He is spending at least 9 1/2 months in prison now. Following at least 2 other stints in jail and at least 2 stints in rehab facilities and halfway houses. He denies he has a mood/mental disorder, and won't listen to his father (who is 17-years sober and also medicated for bipolar), and sister (who is a DR). This recent jail sentence is from his 5th DUI - fortunately no injury accidents... how to convince him that his way is not working?
Read answer →Double Dip Rehab?
Is it a good idea to go to rehab with my girlfriend or is it a better idea for both us to go to separate places. We are both addicted to cocaine my parents have said they will pay for both of us to get some treatment. We are both ready for a new start in life and ready to quit this life.
Read answer →Tough Lady Fighting to Get Better
is there such a thing as "scholarship" programs? I have no insurance. Ability to self pay is limited...I have been to several programs.. dual diagnoised. I have had 2-3 years sobriety SEVERAL times.... Im forever trapped but my time has run it course and closing in...............
Read answer →Doper Scout Leader
I saw my son's scout leader at a local bar and he was obviously doing cocaine in the bathroom. He has always been a tremendous giver of his time to the kids in the community through the scouts but now I really do not know what to think. Should I be worried? He takes the kids on overnight camping trips and sometimes he is the only adult present. He also drives kids around. I do not know a lot about cocaine other than to know how addictive it is. Should I tell the other parents? Should I report him to the scouting organization? Am I overreacting?
Read answer →Kick the Habit Fast
I have to report to jail in 5 weeks to serve 7 months for grand larceny. I am addicted to opiates. What's the best way for me to kick before I need to go in?
Read answer →High Potential for Dangerous Dual Addiction
I have been abusing Adderall and Vyvanze for like 11 months and I am pretty addicted now (I am also ADD legit but I took way more than I was prescribed). I always use some but I go back and forth from binges to trying to keep it under control and when I am on a binge it can get pretty crazy and I can almost lose touch with reality and I get real shaky and my friends tell me I get pretty weird to be around. I want to try tapering off. What I want to know is if a doctor will give me a prescription for Xanax or another benzo to help me deal with the cravings to binge when they get bad. I am sure I could get it anyway… but I think if I had some of that it would help me a lot to stay on some sort of tapering program.
Read answer →Starving Yourself as a New Eating Plan
I addicted to food. Is a long fast or juice cleanse a good way to start a new eating plan. Sort of like how an alcoholic needs to give up drinking completely I feel almost like I need to give up eating completely to start to break free from its power over me.
Read answer →Am I Addicted to Food?
What’s the difference between food addiction and binge eating disorder? I have a problem controlling how much I eat but I don’t really understand the difference between these two conditions.
Read answer →There is No Recovery From Addiction
I just learned that one of my salesmen is an ex cocaine addict who is getting ongoing cocaine addiction treatment so he doesn’t use. I know how often these guys relapse and in my opinion, once you are the kind of person who will break the law to buy drugs you are probably the kind of person who will break the law in other ways, such as by stealing to pay for drugs. What drives me crazy is that I can’t even fire this guy because if I did I would be discriminating against him as he is protected by the Americans with disabilities act. I am a regular family guy who has worked too hard to get where I am today. What can I do to protect my business from drug addicts when the DC government seems to want us to coddle those people in life who make bad choices and then I have to clean up their messes.
Read answer →Treatment for "Out of Control" Son Threatening Suicide: DANGER!
If my son has no insurance and i am a single mom of three kids and have no way of getting him help... he has threatened to kill himself over and over, has rages, does drugs... he was taken to a hospital this past week, placed into an outpatient rehab center in which they are dismissing him soon... what options do i have?
Read answer →He's Ruining His Life
My son used suboxone for heroin addiction. Now it's his drug of choice and is ruining his life and health... what is the treatment he needs to get off of it?
Read answer →This Ain't Gonnna Be Easy
If someone is just released from jail and needs a free rehab facility or program in Maine, what do they do?
Read answer →Vicodin Addiction & Drug Testing
I am in a bad situation. I have got a job offer to move to a much better paying job. It is the job I have been working toward for 7 years and everyone knows I have to take it. The problem is I have developed a bit of a vicodin addiction over the last 6 months and this new job does drug screening and drug testing and I am not going to pass the test. I need to get clean enough to pass a drug test in 16 days and I can’t handle the quit. I have tried but it is too hard. If I go on Suboxone will they drug test for that?
Read answer →The System Sucks
My brother is addicted to heroin and crack. Sometimes he goes on methadone almost just for a break from needing to take heroin but he never stops taking crack. I think the whole system stinks. How is it helping him to give him methadone if he is just going to be a crack addict still? It seems to me like it is just cheap and easy for the government to shelve these people on methadone so they won’t be such a problem in society. Helping them costs too much. I think it is terrible. Why is it legal to get these people addicted to methadone but it is not legal to let them get addicted to heroin. What is the difference really?
Read answer →Ambien: Evil Drug and Living in HELL
I am addicted to Ambien. I started taking it a year and a half ago and now I am up to 20mgs a day (more than I am prescribed I have to buy extra from my weed dealer). I curse the fact that my doctor ever gave me this evil med. It worked for a while but I still don’t sleep well now but if I don’t take it I have night terrors and hallucinations and shakes and depression and headaches. It is HELL. I do not think I can ever get off this drug on my own. Is there something I could do like go to rehab where they could medicate me to get through the worst of these withdrawals? I can’t do it on my own but I am tired of being a slave to this evil drug!!!
Read answer →Learn About Ibogaine
Do you think ibogaine is a good option for a heroin addict? My brother has tried detox and he has tried methadone and he always goes back to heroin after not very long. I feel that he is treating the symptoms of his problems and not his problems with all this drug use and that maybe if he tried something like ibogaine he would gain some information about why he needs to use drugs and maybe gain some health and closure. He says he is willing to try something new and that he is desperate to get out of the lifestyle he has right now. I am willing to pay for his treatment and in doing some research I have found that some of the Ibogaine clinics in Canada and the Caribbean are more affordable than a lot of regular rehabs here at home. I know there are some risks involved but he is hardly living a risk free life right now either. I would like to get some feedback from any experts in the addiction treatment field about whether or not, at the very general and non individual level, this is a good idea.
Read answer →Smoking Addiction: Choosing Cigarettes Over Breathing
My dad needs to go on oxygen after smoking for 40 years. He says that he can’t stop and since you can’t obviously smoke while on oxygen he has more or less decided he’s not going to comply with his doctor’s recommendations. This is insane, that he is choosing cigarettes over breathing. I am not ready to see him die. He is only 64. He says he’s tried everything and he just can’t quit. What’s the best thing for a person who has been smoking for so long to try, when he really needs to quit. He needs to quit right now so it’s got to work fast.
Read answer →Classic Example of Denial
Is it weird to be an addict without any particular reason for it? I had a pleasant childhood, was never abused in any way, came from a loving family home and still have excellent relations with my family members and had every advantage in life – and still I’m an addict. It seems that all the other junkies I know have these horror stories from early life that I just don’t have and the one time I talked to a ‘professional’ about my ‘substance abuse’ she kept digging around in my childhood, trying to find some reason for it all I think. So is it weird to just like drugs a lot and do them way more than you should, just because you love that feeling and not because you’re trying to escape from anyone or anywhere in particular?
Read answer →Get Back after Using Crack
My brother has been using crack for about 5 or 6 years. He is barely recognizable as the same personality that he used to be. It seems like the crack has destroyed his brain. If he stops using will he go back to being the person he used to be or is the crack damage forever?
Read answer →Dangerous Situation: Dual Benzodiazepines / Morphine addiction
I am a 46 year old male who has been taking Xanax 1 mg tabs 4x's per day for about 1 and 1/2 years. I have had anxiety and panic attacks since I was a child. Though Xanax has helped them almost completely go away I feel the need for more of them especially when it comes to helping me sleep. I also have some insomnia issues. I can definitely can tell when I do not have enough Xanax in my system by the uneasiness feeling I get mostly in my feet. My feet also will twitch at times and I get the sweats. On top of all this back in October of 2008 I feel of a ladder on a driveway where I have two compound fractures of the L1 and L3 vertebrae. So I have been on two types of morphine for 3 years and 5 months. One I take 4x's per day it is a fast acting type. The other I take 3x's per day and it is a slow release form. I feel like I should come off of these meds because of the way I feel if I start to get nervous waiting for the next refill to come or if I am having a bad day taking more than prescribed. So my tolerance level is fairly high for all these meds. I am scared to tell my doctors this for fear of they will completely take me off of the meds and have some serious withdrawals. I am just scared all the way around. Please any advice would be helpful. Bouy63
Read answer →I Don't Use Drugs but I Failed a Drug Test.
Hello. I have been with my boyfriend for over 10 years and we have kids together. I am unemployed and had some depression issues especially when I failed a drug test. I don't do any drugs. So I have been questioning God and my own life. Then, one day I came across a plate with a dollar bill on it with powder substances on it. So I confronted my boyfriend and he admitted it and stated he does not do it often. I am trying to figure out how it got into my system. Now, I know how it got into my system, because he is smoking it in my house. I am confuse and I don't know what to do. I thinking should I just kick him out or try to help. Then I don't even know how to help. We don't really have good communication with each other. My feelings right now: I am a bit on the angry side. It was 2 jobs that was in my hands, but because of him I am still unemployed.
Read answer →Freaked Out
I got a shock today when I found out that the guy I am dating who is only 32 has a set of partial dentures. It was awkward to spend the night at his house and find this out for the first time. He opened up to me and told me that he used to do a lot of meth but that he has been clean for more than 18 months and he never wants to do it again. I am freaked out. How bad does a person have to be before they lose their teeth from using meth? He must have been like a total junky right? I am trying to piece together who this guy is.
Read answer →Heroin: On a Speeding Train to the Depths of Nowhere
My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years started doing heroin several months ago. It hasn't been an every day thing, yet. Every time I catch him on it he promises me he will stop. Last night I found a 10 pack of syringes in his room with only 3 left. I was unaware that he was shooting up. What is the severity of shooting up and is he already at the point of no return?
Read answer →Shame in Secrets Courage in Telling the Truth
I am uncomfortable with a certain aspect of drug rehab addiction treatment, namely the family therapy part. I am scheduled to check in to a rehab next week. I have a problem with vicodin and I think it’s time that I take some steps to stop using. I cannot do this on my own, I have tried. My daughter is 12. She does not know that I have an addiction to pills and I do not really want her to know that her mother is a drug addict. The rehab people have told me that family therapy is an important part of the healing process and there is a family weekend where everybody is supposed to come and participate in different activities. I do not want this. I think she is too young to be involved in something like this. Is there really any benefit in having a child get involved in all of this? I can just imagine her in some sort of therapy group with a bunch of heroin and meth junkies and me. How is she supposed to respect me as a mother after something like that?
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