Passive Aggression Hurts

My challenge to your husband would be that being passive aggressive shows a lack of integrity. Typically the person who engages in this behavior is being hurtful in a manner that allows them to avoid being accountable for what they say and do. My suggestion to you would be to ask what he means by what he says. Check in with him, "It sounds like you're saying ______, is that what you mean to say?" Folks who are passive aggressive often fear conflict and instead get digs in. I'd encourage you to explain how his behavior impacts you emotionally. He may fear conflict - which makes resolving conflict very problematic. Don't wait for him to engage in the behavior - have a conversation about how you can make changes in the ways in which you communicate. Good luck!