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Can a life coach help?
Can a life coach help me figure out what I want from life? I am not satisfied with my life. I know that what I have in my life right now is not what I need or want but I do not quite know what it is that I should do differently. I work in finance and make a lot of money that gets swallowed by the expenses of my family and lifestyle. Some days I just want to throw it all away and move to an island somewhere. I guess I feel stuck in this situation and even though I know I should be thankful to have a good job I do not feel lucky in any way. I love my wife and family to death but because of them I am trapped. I feel like I could use some guidance but I am a little confused about who to turn to. I guess I feel like I could use pretty regular support or motivation like from a life coach but I do not know how a life coach can help me if I don’t know what it is that I actually want to do.
Read answer →How important are creative pursuits for mental health?
How important are creative pursuits for the living of a health and satisfying life? Do all people need creative outlets, like playing music or dancing or painting etc. or do only ‘creative people’ need these types of things to feel fulfilled and happy?
Read answer →How do I attract a marriage minded man?
I am turning 40 very shortly and the panic of possibly not having kids has caused me to not be able to focus on anything else in life for the last 3/4 years after I broke up with my now ex fiance who I am not sure was the right one for me and whom I got involved with too quickly as a result of being needy living alone from family & my mother's words regarding how just time to have one work. I didn't listen to my initial instincts and furious and still resentful at my mom about wasting so much time getting involved wt wrong guy but it was my decision at end of day and have tried to forgive her. My family dynamics is a mess with a verbally abusive sister and mother who doesn't understand lines of privacy nor limits and divorced parents, however I do not want to use any of this as much excuse to not have my life together. I am attractive and have dated more than the average woman; I easily attract men when I put myself out there, however my concern and disappointment is that I haven't found the one and I don't know if there is a one and what I am doing wrong to work with the next one I meet. I do not want to to go a sperm bank or adopt on my own. My having a happy life long relationship and companionship is more important to me and I don't want to become a voluntary single mom so not go have a baby on my own. I want to be happily married before seeing if it happens and then if not getting help together for it or adopting. I feel like since my ex fiance so much dating (almost too much) but I do not get physically close to them, and no one I have connected. I feel like something is blocked inside me. I should also mention that my mother put in my head that my ex fiance was gay and that was hard to deal with and I also don't know if he was or not, and that fear has actually made me very scared to trust. I know I have to trust and overcome these fears, and I truly want a healthy relationship with a man and concerned the good quality men are looking for a younger woman who can have kids. I do not want a man who just wants a baby making machine, so in a way I want a man who wants what I want first a life time companion, because you can have a woman or man that is younger who can not make kids and you have older women as old as 50 and attractive and healthy whom I have known to have healthy children with someone they wanted finally. So I have not settled. I feel stuck in the suburbs, this topic has affected my work life and taken over my psyche. I can relax and live my life but then this concern and the reality that I must settle down with someone now and have a child to be able to in this life time is not going to go away I have tried. I want to know why it is so easy for some women to get married and remarried (do they just take any crap just to be married?) and for someone like me whom men and women say is an amazing catch, I am being told I may intimidate men. A very good male family member told me to not waste time with men to tell them on the 2nd or 3rd date the truth which is that I won't sleep with anyone unless I am in a serious relatinship planning a life together first, and that I am not saying it is them that I am going to be necessarily be serious with, but to not waste his time or mine, to be clear from the start. I feel I haven't been and dating 1 person after another after another, has simply led to fun going out and nothing else which is not all I am after. I want a man who is just as eager if not more to also build a family now, after knowing me. I have heard of more than one occasion where 2 people that had enough experiences and knew what they wanted, were engaged in 2/3 months of spending lots of time together in different situations & getting to know each other well. They are happily married to this day, where as I know others who have been together for a long time and split and never got married, so I don't think there is a timeline, but I want to know why I feel in such a stuck place, and in a rut and every time a prospect doesn't work out, the pain of the disappointment and the time ticking away, gets harder. Please help this is very unbearable and it has taken over my whole life, I want a way to be at peace while still being able to open to this partner but I feel I am missing something because I am not finding him or doing something wrong or not being in the right environments? how do you attract a marriage minded man? I need to add I do meditate and that has given me some relief but also a push towards finding deep answers to my dilemma which I haven't been able to do on my own. I also do not want anyone religious that I am completely against. I want someone who is NOT after strict dogmatic beliefs diving him and then me from other groups of people, but someone who believes in universal spirituality and unity of human beings not divided up by labeled religions. I say that so you don't send me to church; I am at peace with my spiritual beliefs which is why I haven't given up, it is however the methods and understanding and clarity/skills I want to understand that attract a marriage minded male and a happy marriage/life long relationships. I know there are no guarantees but I would rather try than feel numb and stuck and down about it all the time by the sidelines watching everyone else's life (although I have at least a half dozen great ladies in the same shoes that maybe some of whom I feel have given up with their attitude). My attitude is there are great men out there looking for the same thing, and that if you do the right thing, it should come easy? so I am doing something wrong, help please!!!
Read answer →How can our relationship survive our daughter's health crisis?
Our 5 year old daughter has neuroblastoma. We have tried conventional treatments and nothing is working. We have researched some more aggressive alternative stem cell treatments. My wife and I cannot agree on what we should do. My wife wants to go overseas to enroll in an experimental protocol. This treatment would be quite hard on my daughter. Our doctor says that at this point there is little that can be done and he is skeptical about the experimental treatment we have been researching. He says at best we would just be prolonging her suffering. This is an awful decision but I do not think we should do this, but if we don’t I do not think my wife will ever forgive me for not trying. I do not know if our marriage can survive this anyway. How can we get through this OK, whatever we decide to do?
Read answer →How can I accept the things in our relationship that bug me?
My fiancée is really lazy. I have a small business and she benefits from it because I make more money than she does and so pay a lot more of the bills (we live together). She works only very part time. Now is my busy season at work and sometimes I ask her to help out with counter work or odd jobs when I get in a real bind. She’ll usually do it but she sulks and resents it. It drives me crazy. I love her dearly but I do not understand how she can watch me work 20 hour days and not want to help out when I need it most. I can’t seem to get over this and we have recurring fights about this same issue. Other than this we are great together. I do not think she will or can change. I love her and want to be with her so I want to change. How can I learn to let it go and accept her for who she is? I want to but I can’t help but get angry. I know it is me that has to make this work but I cannot figure out how to do it…
Read answer →How dangerous are first person shooter video games for my 11 year old?
My ex husband lets our son play violent first person shooter games when he goes over for the weekend. My son is 11. This has been a source of conflict for us in the past and we are trying to work together with more civility. I need to pick my battles carefully. How damaging is this to my son. I get concerned when I read that kids like Adam Lanza were addicted to these kinds of games. Is this a battle I need to fight?
Read answer →How do I resolve my sexual conflict?
I am the woman turning 40, engaged once in my mid 30s but to not the right person for me and broke it off; he was also my first sexual partner (going all the way that is); I did not wait until my mid 30s for any religious reasons, but I was brought up to wait for the one, though when I went for it with him, I think I just wanted to get it over with. It was a relief but the feelings after that came up (major insecurity, attachment, anxiety) was not good until I dealt with some of it. Before breaking up that engagement my mother put in my head he might be gay because he was very metrosexual and although I don't think so to this day, it has tortured me, and made me very scared to attract not a heterosexual male into my life, but someone pretending to be. Although I don't think my mom was right, who knows, this was very disturbing at the time, given this was also my first sexual partner (I had made out with lots of guys before but never gone all the way); since that relationhip that was 4/5 years ago, I have not been able to find or create a lasting one to lead to marriage; as I said I feel stuck; I am very aware I grew up in an environment with no lines/limits respected especially by mom, and as a single mom, I always tried to calm her/soothe her; but it cost me staying away from men and trouble and maybe miss out on some relationship skills early on; given that I have dated so much, guys find me attractive, and I have a kind heart, I have had no issues attracting one man after another,but now getting to 40 I am not necessarily everyone's # one choice if they want to have kids, nor do I want them to be; I want someone who wants a lifetime companion first, not just a baby making machine; I love babies and yes it hurts to think I may not have kids and I know I have option to go to sperm bank to do it; but I don't want that; I want to share that experience with someone I love, or I can leave it and if it's too late when I find the love of my life, I have love to give and then can consider adopting a child. My concern right now is how I haven't been able to maybe fully heal from my engagement and although I have dated plenty of men since then, I think for most of my life though these dates and the attention has been for my ego and to fill me up, rebellion against mom or just neediness; I want to enter the next one from a healthier place and I do want it to lead to marriage; I don't sleep with anyone unless it is as serious as leading to marriage, but as I am working on my trust with men so that I know when to trust them enough so that they don't just tell me what I want to hear to get close to me, I have considered waiting to have sex again until I am at least engaged; some say that is unrealistic, others don't think so, so I don't what's reasonable; any guy can tell you what you want to hear to get you into bed, so I am leaning towards waiting until I am at least engaged; I tried this with last guy but then going partially sexually didn't work and he was pissed off, even though he knew where I stood on the sex. in any case I find the sex gets in the way of my relationships getting to the next stage of being serious and i don't know if this is combined with my trust level which it does. Now I am scared though because I get very strong sexual urges and the other day out with a girlfriend , I met a guy who was very attracted to me and let him french kiss me and even feel me up; this is completely out of character for me for someone I just met; I was feeling down and had had a couple drinks but it made me think what you set about not knowing how to set boundaries or being assertive, while at the same time maybe the kiss by itself and the sexual curiousity was real; I felt good the next day as if it proved to me my attractiveness and I needed that, but then again it went too far; I am worth more than a quick rub down on a dance floor; what scares me is that I have been the most strict/concservative of all of my friends growing up and I know in my teens probably suppressed these feelings too much, and now I feel really wild and because of waiting so much, I feel like exploding; yes self-pleasure helps and is fine, however, I keep fantasizing about being with a man in different ways all the time and I don't want it to consume me. I am still not going to sleep with anyone unless in a serious,monogamous relationship, but I need a way to deal emotionally with these sexual urges; I feel like because I am not getting anywhere to marriage with men, it's hopeless and pointless to try to even date again, but in the meantime my hormones are driving me crazy as I feel something emotional/mental needs resolving so I can get unstuck and be able to trust in a healthy way and let someone in and have a long-term relationship with. Please help, I don't want to suppress my sexual feelings but is it healthy to make out once in a while with someone to let yourself, even though a quick make out session is not what you want; I feel like a whore, as much as I am the last thing from it; I don't want to go from guy to guy and make out with a 100 guys; I rather wait for one that is worth it and then trust and go all the way because I am sure it will lead to a life together, but how do I do that?
Read answer →How can I help my son spend less time on the internet?
My son is a 25 year old software engineer who works for a very well known company from the comfort of his own bedroom – his childhood bedroom actually. He makes a lot of money but prefers to work at home and rarely goes out to socialize with anyone offline. I do not mind having him at home and he contributes more than his fair share to the bills (he can certainly afford to) but I am worried about him. He probably spends 22 hours a day in his room on an average day. He leaves only occasionally to come down and watch TV with us make a sandwich or whatever. He says he is working all the time. I try to get him to socialize with people but he says he is too busy. He has not had many friends since high school. I don’t know if there is something really wrong with him or not but I know that there is more to life than what he’s got. What can I do to help him?
Read answer →How do I feel less nervous and shy in social situations?
I am very socially uncomfortable and shy. When I have to talk to people for any length of time that I am not comfortable with (most people beyond immediate family and a few close friends) I start to feel very nervous. The big problem is as soon as I start to feel nervous my face starts to go very obviously red. And as soon as I can feel my face flushing I start to feel even more nervous because I know the other person knows I am nervous and so it just gets worse. What can I do to stop this situation?
Read answer →How can I know and trust the integrity of this man?
Hi Penny, I am in a new relationship, I met him online on a site just for my own cultural background (same nationality). I have chemistry with this man at every level physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. It felt overwhelming when I met him; I haven't been intimate sexually wt anyone, for 3 years since my ex fiance (just dated and making out) as I am waiting for someone special, so I know my hormones are at play here but I feel like we really think alike, so he has told me he loves me and first time EVER I have said it to him and I mean it. I am not a stupid girl I waited till 35 to lose my virginity with someone who became my fiance, I take these things so seriously, I know i don't know everything about this new guy and that he is not perfect; neither am I. I want to trust and be open, he wants to get intimate physically and says it's been 4 months for him and he is frustrated but that I satisfy him in every way, we are together, we are exclusive, he wants a long term serious thing wt me, he also says he didnt' think he 'd get married or want to, but with me he would. now he said these things when I've not gone over to his place for this first month of relationship and besides kissing we haven't done anything yet. I told him, I don't want to start something that will leave him frustrated at his place if I am not ready for it, and I want to be comfortable and get to know him better; I told him I need to be in a serious relationship and he says we are together meaning he wants to be with me long term. I have issues trusting and I really want to be with him sexually but I told him I feel pressured, and I have turned him down to go over to his place several times, he still comes around but he has expressed sexual frustration and he doesn't understand what the need is to wait and that I should ask him anything to know him, but the thing is I dont' want to listen to his words, I want to see his actions. Now he does what he says, when he says he 'll call he does, when he is wrong he says sorry, when he does something wrong he immediatly corrects himself, he goes out of his way to pick me up and make me feel comfortable when we go out, on his public career profiles a person describes him as a person with integrity people should hire as he does what he says, he is always on time etc. this is the person I am falling in love with, but he has said things that were a bit heavy to take in. when he was sexually frustarted he asked me if he was ok if he pleasured himself and I said that's fine then he said he has to think about his ex girl friend to get off, and I was shocked he said he hasn't been with me and maybe that's fresh in his memory, I got mad and told him well then just go wt her and he says he doesn't want to (mind you i think she might have broken up with him). I told him that he is trying to pressure me to have sex sooner by saying that, and I don't believe him, and for him to find someone he hasnt dated to fantasize about, he thinks that can addictive and not healthy, anyway I told him, I don't like being pressured, I know he wants to be with me badly, I want it maybe more than him, but I need to be ready and I won't do it just cause he wants it or to keep a guy;he said he'll find another way to get off, and I told him I don't mean outside the relationshp because he is saying I am his gf now, though when asked by a new couple we met publicly he didn't say anything (it has been only a month and a week we see each other and he was away almost 2 weeks in europe visiting family), so I wasn't expecting him to say anything but now he says he tells people he is out with his gf (me). I want him to say to others in public so I know I can trust him and he is not playing me. Also we are from a repressive regime, and he was in army training there over 20 years ago and very bad experience for him; he got arrested he says and was in jail a few months because he beat up an officer who was a bully and was mistreating him or others; he says that was really hard, it was hard for me to hear he was arrested, but then again if I was in his shoes and he is a man of integrity I can see how an unjust situation 'd lead him to that; also he was there 2 years with no water or electricity. Does this mean he is violent or a criminal? nothing else after this as far as I know in that country nor outside that country in north america. He has also told me that he was working on a project as an electrician at a house one time and saw a guy escape from a house the cops came around and asked if he saw anyone, in the moment he didn't say he did, but then he says they told him he was a rapist, and asked for his tools to shut the door to his front door so he 'd not or could not come back there to hide, he says he saw a great expensive camera there; his colleague was there too, he said to him this guy is a rapist, he is not coming back and so he took the camera. Again I told him I am not sure about what he told me. I asked him if he has done anything like that after and he said come on, of course not. I can see in that situation a criminal's stuff really what's the harm in taking it, but he himself says now that he was young and he didn't have to tell me this but he is because he is comfortable with me, but may be things he feels are not things he is proud of necessarily either and wants to see if I accept him despite his past/faults. My concern is the present though. He seems now like the type who doesn't want to hurt a fly, and in 20 years he has read spritual texts, and seems to have grown a lot as a person, so I am conflicted about his integrity and if I should let him close to me; we are very attracted to each other and I want to but not unless I know I can trust him 100% and I told him that; he had said to me he 'd wait for me 3, 6mnths whatever it takes one day but he was more frustrated a week later , because I haven't given him a timeline just said I need to be comfortable. I have moments where I can't imagine my life without him, and then try to be logical, and smart, so I think going towards full physical intimacy in stages now might be a good compromise but I am then worried from past experience how far is too far, he may then completely stop pursuing the relationship if he feels teased, he is already saying the way you kissed me i though we'd go to my place after. I am so conflicted and confused, please help.
Read answer →Will cosmetic surgery make me happy?
I was quite good looking but I am now 44 and I do not get the attention for my looks that I used to. It is quite vain but I admit that I miss this. I always scoffed at the idea of plastic surgery and I always planned to age gracefully – whatever that means. Now that it’s really happening I may be changing my mind. What I want to know, and maybe this in an unanswerable question, is will getting surgery and fighting to stay youthful looking make me happier? Or will I be happier accepting what is and living as I am now? Sorry to throw up an impossible question (you don’t know me of course) but I am really grappling with what’s important in my life and the message I want to send to my daughters so I am interested in the big picture as well as my own picture. Thank you for whatever thinking points you can offer.
Read answer →Is my wife addicted to the internet?
My wife is a stay at home mom. She is one of those iphone and ipad addicted people who check facebook in the middle of the night for updates. I thought it was kind of annoying but basically harmless before we had our daughter but now that my daughter is 6 months I can see that my wife’s habits are very destructive. She may be in the same room with our daughter but her mind is elsewhere and she is supposed to be talking and singing and doing all those things that stimulate the brain and help kids learn to talk. My wife says I am overreacting but she gets so defensive and angry when I question the time she spends online that I think it is like denial. It is a very touchy subject. I feel like she is protecting her addiction. She won’t stop and I don’t know what to do?
Read answer →No-one seems interested in my interesting life - how can I do better in social situations?
I am the most exciting boring person I have ever met. I honestly have a really interesting life. I have swam in the Amazon, been to Easter Island, gone skydiving, I ran with the bulls, I am writing a novel and a screenplay and on and on. Looking at my life objectively, no one could say it was dull. But when I talk to other people, even when I am telling them about all of the stuff I have done, people are bored with me. I cannot hold anyone’s interest and I never have the right thing to say. So I am trapped as an exciting boring guy. I hate this and I have no idea how to change. How can I learn to have witty pithy comments when my mind is just blank when with other people?
Read answer →How do I get rid of my guilt feelings?
I did some work in the past that I do not feel very good about. I rationalized it in the past because I was just ‘following orders’ and if I didn’t do it someone else would have. It wasn’t my idea to do it I was just acting out someone else’s will. Really I can see know that I was just greedy for the money and willing to turn a blind eye to the consequences. Now I feel really bad about this and I am pretty sure that my work helped to cheat people. I can’t say exactly what I did because I might be admitting to a criminal offense. I can’t shake off my guilt now and it is really bothering me. What should I do now? I tired giving money to charity but it didn’t take my guilt away. I can’t take back what I did but the guilt is killing me.
Read answer →How do I get rid of unwanted thoughts of harming others?
I can’t stop thinking about things that I do not want to think about. Like horrible thoughts about hurting people. This makes me sound like a crazy but I am not like that at all. I don’t want to have these thoughts and I don’t want to hurt anyone. I have never hurt anyone physically. But I will be just walking down the street and I will see someone walking toward me and I will just start imagining I am pushing him into traffic, for example. Sometimes it feels so real I get really scared that I am going to actually do it and I have to get away from the person. I started feeling like this a few months ago and it is getting worse all the time. I have told my friends but they don’t understand how I feel. They are not scared of me because they know me and they know I am gentle. This is getting intolerable and I want to get help. Who should I go to talk to and how do I explain what is wrong with me? I know it sounds like I am crazy but I am not AT ALL. I am never going to actually do anything I just hate thinking these thoughts.
Read answer →Should I let my dying estranged father into my children's lives?
My husband was killed in a car crash last year. He was a fantastic dad to our children and we are not over his loss. Now we have a new death to deal with. I have been estranged with my father for more than 10 years. He was an angry alcoholic that did and said some truly unforgivable things. Well now he is dying and he wants to make amends and more than that he wants to meet and get to know his grandkids before he dies. They are 5 and 8 and they have never met him before. He only has a few months to live. He is not drinking now and I have decided to forgive as much as I can so I can have a relationship with him before he dies. This after much soul searching. But what I am not sure about is if it is fair to my children to introduce them to a man that can be very lovable and charming when he wants to be, and then they will fall in love with him and then he will die. I have to put them first. Would they be better off never feeling this trauma after all they have been through?
Read answer →How can I stop being so resentful?
How do you get rid of resentment? I realize that when I feel resentful I am slipping down toward relapse but I find that often when my mind wanders I start daydreaming and a lot of the time I am just remembering slights and mistreatments and imagining what I would have done differently etc etc etc. This happens to me all the time and I try to keep banishing these thoughts away but they always come back?
Read answer →How can I know that a man is trustworthy enough to let him get close to me?
Can an expert please share how a single woman that has had her parents go through a divorce and has watched her mother suffer as a single mom and become very negative, as well as have herself issues with men in relationships (though wanting desperately to do the right thing and create a beautiful thing), how does this single woman not give up and how do you know and at what stage do you know how to trust a man and let him get close to you physically and how do you NOT get emotionally involved too soon before know can trust him, so you don't get disappointed over and over and over? It is torture and very depressing to feel you can't get anywhere with any man you are attracted to and you always think they want to use you. Help please
Read answer →How much exercise is too much?
How are you supposed to know if you are getting too obsessed with looking good. I am a 22 year old guy who works out a lot and I am proud of my ripped physique. Sometimes people say I’m practically an anorexic cause I am so particular about what I will eat and what I won’t eat. I have single digit body fat and that doesn’t just happen. If I go out with my old friends I know I will eat too much and then I feel like shit after and they don’t understand this so now I mostly just hang out at the gym. They say I have a problem.
Read answer →How can I help my teenage daughter have a positive body image?
I am an international school teacher. My family moved this year to Vietnam where I have taken a position as a headmaster. My daughters are 13 and 16. Both are healthy and beautiful, but they take after me and I have always been a little heavy through the hips and legs. It’s just the way we are built. My eldest daughter seems OK with her body image but my youngest daughter is just starting to gain a little weight and broaden and the fact that she now compares herself to all these very thin Viet girls she sees all day is not helping her confidence, nor is the fact that she can’t even fit into anything at the mall when she goes shopping. How can I help her with her body image problems, especially given the environment we live in for social comparison? She doesn’t say much about it but I can sense that she is not the same confident girl she was even 6 months ago.
Read answer →I worry about everything! How can I stop?
What does it mean if I am always worried? To give you an example. I took my children to an outdoor puppet show last night. It was a really cool event and I should have been really enjoying it because the performances were spectacular but there was a threat of rain in the air and it was an open air event. I just felt this nagging undercurrent of worry and dread the whole time that it would rain and that it would all be a disaster. I don’t know why I was so worried because it wasn’t my problem to deal with, all we would have to do would be to dash to our car parked close by. But whenever the wind would gust a little I would just feel this dread and worry at the core of my being. And it kind of ruined my enjoyment of the show. This is just an example of how I worry all the time about stuff that is ridiculous for me to be thinking about. I also worry about my own problems but to start with I would at least like to stop worrying about other people’s problems. How do I do this?
Read answer →How can I help my sister break out of her celebrity fantasy?
My older sister has infatuations with male celebrities that are so serious that they keep her from having real relationships. In her mind no real man thats around here compares to the people in her head and on posters on her walls. She is 33 and she still has posters like a little teenager on her bedroom walls. I am worried about her but am not sure how to get her to change. I think underneath it all she is scared to get hurt so she plays it safe by living in a fantasy world. I do not think she is happy but she is too scared to change. Whenever I or any of my friends has problems in our relationships she uses this as evidence against real love but she does not see the good part. She refuses to get fixed up. She is pretty but to my knowledge she has never had a real relationship in her whole life. Is there anything I can do for her? She is 10 years older than me so she has always acted like she is wiser but it is obvious that she is not.
Read answer →How can I help my friend who I think has bipolar disorder?
I have this friend who I think is bipolar or something similar. He doesn’t want to talk about it. I don’t know for sure but sometimes he seems very manic, talking a mile a minute, and sometimes he is very paranoid and depressed seeming. Maybe it is not true bipolar because he never seems to lose touch with reality completely but it is definitely soemthing. Usually I only see him in his manic phases because he won’t answer the phone for days at a time when he depressed and he won’t tell me where he lives even though we are sort of good friends. He has some very weird paranoia issues about people knowing too much about him. I have known him for 10 years and I like him and trust him. He house sits for me when I am frequently away. He just lost his part time computer job. It was pretty much data entry and didn’t pay much but he was surviving on it. I don’t know what got him fired but I have to guess it was erratic behavior. I actually lost it on him last night because I am trying to do a work renovation and I asked him to help out as labor so I could pay him a bit but he would not stop with his crazy ideas and interrupting everyone to consider his schemes. He apologized after and said he hasn’t been sleeping well for days. I offered to take him to a hospital and he won’t go. I said I would pay for his expenses to see a doctor and he still won’t go. I really want to help him but I do not know what to do and I am very worried about how he will survive. He has no family living in this country.
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