Stress and Anxiety Require Release

Question

I have a lot of debilitating headaches. My doctor has done a lot of tests and there is no obvious physical cause. I am under a lot of stress and anxiety so that seems to be the most likely culprit. There is little chance that I can reduce my workload (new business plus new child…not exactly perfect timing) or stress since I’ve got all my money and my families money tied up in my new restaurant. I need to get better fast. I know medications might work but I have an addiction history so I am scared to get into something like Xanax. What’s the best way for me to get rid of the headaches quickly, considering I cant stop 16 hour days for the conceivable future?

Jim LaPierre · Accepted Answer

Wow - I can so relate to where you're at. When I started my own business it was exactly as you describe. You're right - stress is inevitable (for all of us but especially in your current situation). Anxiety is optional - anxiety occurs when we do not cope with negative emotions and stress in healthy ways. There are elements of self talk that do not take time. Pay attention to your self talk - notice when you're beating you up and then stop. It doesn't take time to treat yourself the way you treat your employees. All it takes is that you pay attention, notice things, and make them healthy.

Other short cuts - massage once a week, loud music on your way home, yelling (do it in the walk in cooler), prayer, breaking things (hurl glass stuff into the dumpster), vent to loved ones, call people who care during your commute, have sex and/or masturbate no matter how tired you are.

In my opinion - stay the hell away from benzoes - Xanax is terrible stuff as is Ativan and Klonopin and Valium.

Best of luck to you!

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