Is there any rule about ending relationships in early recovery?
Answered by Jennifer Hamilton, LCSW, CADC
Question
Well, your assessment that your thinking is probably less clouded and clearer than ever is probably true. Rule of thumb is do not make any major life changing decisions early in recovery that you can put off a while, six months if possible, to give your brain time for the fog to lift. I would suggest you "play the tape out to the end" and use your newly functioning pre-frontal lobe to think both scenarios through to their conclusion, both leaving her and staying and see what clarity you gain from that. Have you tried communicating with her? Was she a user too? Sometimes we grow at a different pace than our partner and seem to "outgrow" them. Maybe she deserves a chance since she has been there for you or at least for you to give it to her straight. Just my opinion!
About the Expert
Jennifer Hamilton
LCSW, CADC
Owensboro, United States of America
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Testing/Assessment, Anxiety or Fears, Child or Adolescent Issues, Divorce, Trauma and PTSD, Personality Disorders, OCD, Addiction or Substance Abuse, Mood Disorders, Parenting, Compulsive Disorders, Other, Spirituality, Chronic Pain or Illness, ADHD, Impulse Control Disorders, Relationship Issues, Women, Thinking Disorders, Depression, Finding Your Purpose in Life
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