People with Good Intentions Say Dumb Things
I have come to the conclusion that after 20 years of drama that he will never stop and basically that is his choice. If I did not let him live here I think he would be on the streets, and he would just be a homeless person that begs and drinks. I prefer to save him from that fate and let him have a little dignity. Is this enabling?
Jim LaPierre Says...
You don't mention your age or your brothers but you seem resigned that his alcoholism is perhaps late stage and unlikely to change. It's true that you are enabling - but there is a point of no return from alcoholism. Further, what people do in the full light of day is generally okay says I.
The dangers of enabling are largely that the person is unaware that they are doing so. You are choosing to protect your brother from some natural consequences. He of course is also aware and I assume grateful. The perils of black and white thinking are that everything is either "good" or "bad." That simply isn't true. Good luck to you and your brother
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