Can Counseling Help a Pessimist?

There's an old joke that goes, "How many counselors does it take to change a lightbulb? Only one, but that's if the light bulb really wants to change!" Yes, therapy can help someone look at life more positively. It's a learned habit as well as a personality trait, and we can work with changing the habit. But I noticed you are the one who wrote me, and not your wife. If you are going to have any success with her positivity, it will only work if she wants the change too. However, a good marriage counselor can help you two discuss why a more optimistic outlook will really make a difference in your marriage, as well as in her personal life.

If you think that you've reached a point where you're ready to invite this kind of change in her, I would encourage you to call a local counselor or contact me through www.stephanieadamslpc.com for a free private email consultation. I hate to see your wife spending so much time in sadness, and your marriage under stress, when you can be free of both. You're on a good track. Keep going!