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We are a Baptist family. My daughter is a lovely girl who got involved with some really bad people a few years ago and got pretty deep into trouble with drugs and with a lot of the stuff that goes with that kind of lifestyle. We have tried on many occasions over the years to get her to seek help but she has always refused our offers. It has been heartbreaking watching her age decades in front of our eyes these last 5 or 6 years. Now she is pregnant and says she is keeping the baby (she has aborted 2 in the past). She says she wants to clean up and be a good mom and that she is tired of the drugs and alcohol the unsavory people she associates with. We have asked her to come home to stay with us so that we can take care of her and help her get back on her feet but she says she won’t do that but she will accept our financial support so that she can get a new place and get her life back on track away from her old lifestyle and friends. She says that she has not used drugs or alcohol since she found out she was pregnant 2 weeks ago. We had sworn that we would never give her money again (or goods that she will sell) after seeing how she has always used our hand outs in the past. She is pregnant now and seems sincere in her intentions but I am very reluctant to give her much money, not least because I worry that having a lot of cash on hand might prove too tempting for her to go back to using drugs. It’s not about the money. I would pay it happily if I knew it was going to help. How can I help her get back on her feet when she won’t come back home and when I can’t trust her with money?
