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Basic Training is Necessary Before Going into Battle
I am doing this online program for anger management and there is something that I don’t really understand. One of the things that is recommended is to pay attention to what happens phsyyicaly and cognitively when I start getting angry. Then, once I get the hang of this, once I can recognize these things happening I will know my anger is going up and I can take steps to counteract this before I get out of control. It all sounds very good in theory, but I go from 0 to 10 in about 5 seconds so how am I suppose to bust out a progressive muscle relaxation exercise or imagery exercise within that exceedingly brief window of time? I see this technique of anger stopping gets taught all the time, so I feel like I am missing something basic here. How is this supposed to work in the real world?
Read answer →Self-Control, NOT Control of Others
I use methamphetamine and methadone (12 mil a day) every day, my wife recently quitted and is going to NA. She gets very angry at times and makes me angry too... I don't know how to control the situation. Could you please give me some suggestions
Read answer →Dr. Jekyll and Mrs. Hyde
Hi, within the last few years I have noticed my anger has gotten noticeably worse. Especially when I'm after consuming alcohol. I've found myself saying awful and terrible things to my boyfriends and friends when I'm after alcohol. There has been three times that iv arrived home after a night of drinking and out of nowhere iv started verbally abusing my boyfriend for absolutely no reason saying horrible things that I wouldn't even dream of saying when I'm sober. the worst part is that I don't even mean the things that I'm saying yet i still end up saying them? My dad is quite an angry man who holds a grudge against everyone and iv always made sure that I don't end up like him by thinking positively and not being judgemental however when I'm drunk I seem to explode? And I don't bottle things up either because if myself and my boyfriend ever have an argument were both extremely open and honest with how we feel. I would appreciate any feedback as I don't want to put my boyfriend or my friends through this again and it scares me how I can turn into a different person and be so unpredictable without being able to control myself. Thank you
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