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Paying for sex once a week: Sex addiction?

Answered by Dr. Lani Chin, PsyD

Question

If I pay for sex about once a week does that make me a sex addict? I would not want to stop my little 'hobby' but I am not married and I do not think I am causing anyone any problems. I also think that there is nothing at all immoral about prostitution. I have decided that whatever goes on in private between consenting adults is OK with me.

Sexual activity is usually considered an addiction when someone's habits are interfering with their lives.  For example: losing a sense of time because you're looking at porn and you're chronically late for work or continuing to have sex in a public place even after prior arrests.  If paying for sex is how you get your sexual needs met and this is not disrupting your life in any way, it does not sounds like addiction.  However, the fact that you are asking appears unusual since in your question, you state that "whatever goes on in private between consenting is OK."  If that's truly the case, then why are you asking.  Perhaps some individual therapy could help you sort out your feelings.  Good luck.

About the Expert

Dr. Lani Chin

PsyD

Los Angeles, United States of America

Specialties

Anger Management, Gay Lesbian Issues, Sex Therapy, Personality Disorders, Trauma and PTSD, Compulsive Disorders, OCD, Addiction or Substance Abuse, Mood Disorders, Spirituality, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence, Anxiety or Fears, Impulse Control Disorders, Relationship Issues, Loss or Grief, Eating Disorders, Depression, Women

License

my_license #PSY 24971