Alcoholism for him Produces Inappropriate Behaviour

Question

My husband was at a party on the weekend and he got drunk and he grabbed the hostesses breasts when they were alone in the kitchen together. It was a terrible scene and probably the end of a friendship. This s not the first time that he has done something like this but every time it happens he is drunk and then he just denies responsibility for it the next day and acts very sorry about what he did. I would like to understand why he does this and if being drunk means he really cannot control his actions. Does he have some sort of sexual compulsive disease or something like this. He is a really sweet guy almost all of the time so this is really not in his normal character, otherwise I'd certainly not be sticking around to find out why he keeps putting me in this situation.

Dr. Shirley Schaye · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear about what happened. I cannot say that this is a sexually compulsive disease but one can certainly say that your husband cannot control himself when he is drinking. This is more of an alcoholic problem. It seems to me that he needs to get help with his alcoholism. This is not merely drinking too much but being totally out of control when under the influence of alcohol. So getting help would be not only about his drinking but helping him get in touch with how out of control his behaviour becomes when under the influence of alcohol. So to repeat he not only needs to not drink in excess but he needs to start becoming aware of his inappropriate behaviour that could get him into serious trouble.

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