always respond, never react
This has all happened with varying degrees of success. In the last few months, his behavior has greatly improved. He has taken month stints of not drinking at all, he is eating better, he is consistently on time to work and behaving in normal manners.
Last week, one of the partners was struck with information that accused this individual of sexually assaulting two different people a year ago, during the time he was drinking heavily. I have now been asked to join an intervention for this individual to be performed asap. I am feeling uncomfortable with this request:
1. I am being asked by my employers to be a part of an intervention for my coworker and soon to be defunct boss.
2. They are asking to keep the sexual assault allegations out of the intervention, but he is not currently displaying signs of alcohol or drug abuse. It feels forced and I feel I would have to lie to go along with this.
Can you offer any direction? With this brief overview of history, does it sound like an intervention is the correct thing to do? Should I put aside my underlying feelings of discomfort to offer this friend help? It all feels rushed, not clearly thought out and is making me feel uneasy.
Jim LaPierre Says...
Greetings and thank you for your question. I agree that your employers have a very poorly conceived plan and frankly, it feels like their primary concern is limiting their liability. Few problems with that, obviously many harms have been done - some allegedly and some known. Performing an intervention when someone is sober seems misguided and confusing at best. I would urge you to consider challenging your employer by simply asking, "What is the desired outcome?"
If you are forced to intervene, I would suggest doing so from a very positive direction (not what we normally associate with intervention) You could simply praise the coworker for his progress, inquire as to how you might support his efforts, and encourage him to continue on the path he's on.
You might also consider looking for healthier people to work for. If I can be helpful or answer more questions, feel free to contact me
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