Scott Graham
MS, LADC, CCS
Drug & Alcohol Counselor/Therapist
Boston, USA
Answers questions in Addiction Treatment · Addictions · Alcohol Rehab
About Scott Graham
After receiving two undergraduate degrees from the University of South Florida (one in Psychology and one in Communication) I worked with at-risk kids then moved to New England to work as Counselor and Outward Bound Instructor.
(I had hiked the Appalachian Trail by myself a few years earlier so the opportunity to be in the wilderness and get paid was a dream-come-true).
Working with Outward Bound and other wilderness / adventure schools was great and it was here that I honed my abilities to help people tap into more then they thought they had. It was here that I really learned to coach.
After a few years of working wilderness courses from Florida-to-Oregon I entered graduate school where I earned a Master of Science degree in Business Management. Along the way I achieved certification and faculty status with the William Glasser Institute (Reality Therapy). Glasser's techniques grounded in Lead Management and Choice Theory help people identify what they really want and develop more effective ways to get it and is the primary model I use in coaching.
I returned to Outward Bound for a short time as the Assistant Program Director of an Urban Center in Boston with the focus of developing therapeutic health services. The pull of what had become my home was great however and I eventually returned to the country to work in Vermont.
I started working in a substance abuse treatment program through the Vermont Department of Corrections, called ISAP, and was eventually promoted to Program Director. While working in the ISAP Program, I was the architect of a consistent treatment design which I implemented statewide at nine sites.
Along the way I started 2 businesses: ClinicalSupervision.biz, LLC and Willoughby Forest, LLC.
Choosing to go it as a solo entrepreneur was the next logical step and work as a "life" coach / business coach has proven to be an impetus for ongoing professional and personal development.
I partnered with Inscape Publishing and pleased to offer their assessments to my clients.
Not long after launching my coaching practice, I realized that, although I had an advanced degree in speech communication, my public speaking skills were a bit "rusty" so I joined Toastmasters (I achieved my DTM in less than 3 years -- an accomplishment only 1 in 10,000 can claim and am now half-way through toward my second DTM.)
Responding to the needs of clients, I am now certified by Intuit as a QuickBooks Pro Advisor. I am also certified by the National Federation of Professional Trainers as both a Personal Trainer and Sports Nutrition Specialist.
Continuing my work as a clinical supervisor (after all I have internationally-recognized credentials as a clinical supervisor and addictions counselor through IC&RC), I successfully completed the rigorous process to become a member of the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers and now offer both training and MITI coding for those interested in growing their skills in motivational interviewing.
Committed to common sense conservation (I am a former West Fairlee Conservation Commissioner). my partner and I steward 110 acres of Vermont forestland (Tree Farm #1464), developing agri-forest products like ginseng, in addition to timber. We are both Cooperators through Vermont Coverts.
Working as a solo entrepreneur opened the door for both personal development and community service. While continuing to work toward a regular daily meditation practice, the freedom of self employment has allowed me to sit two 10-day Vipassana courses each year.
Initially I served the town of West Fairlee as a Town Lister and Constable. Then I joined the the West Fairlee Fire Department -- a decision which brought a level of development I had never anticipated. You see, volunteer firefighter receive the same level of training as professional firefighters (I initially completed the requirements for Firefighter I, including HazMat Operations, and then went on to complete Firefighter II, including Flashover and Wildland Fire trainings).
In the midst of all of this - in 2010 -- in the middle of a recession, my spouse and I decided to open a restaurant in Concord, NH: Tandy's Top Shelf. Many people questioned the "wisdom" in doing this, citing the failure rate of restaurants. I countered that the reasons most restaurants fail is not because of something inherent in the restaurant industry but a reflection of the business skills of those who typically choose to open a restaurant business (someone says, "Gee you make good soup, you should open a restaurant and the next thing is a newspaper article about another restaurant opened by a person who needs-a-business-coach-but-doesn't-get-one that fails miserably). With my spouse's extensive experience with Applebee's (my spouse also has a business degree) and my business knowledge, how could we fail?
So what is next after all of this? Hmmmm... I think Tough Mudder, E.M.T., DTM number 2... Stay tuned.
Updated: 11/1/2011.
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Counseling: You get what you pay for...
Is there anywhere to get free or very low cost online counseling for anxiety? I don’t have a lot of money.
Read answer →Toastmasters is a Great Personal Development Program!
I used to be a pretty smart guy. Then I got drunk for 15 years. Now I am sober again. Now I am living at my parents house again after a lot of years away and so I am seeing a lot of people like old friends that I have not spent much time with for a long time. Back in Minneapolis I was running with a boozing crowd that wasn’t known for its highbrow conversation. Now I am back talking to old friends that have professional jobs and I can barely get a coherent sentence out properly. I know I must have some brain damage from drinking because while I can still write Ok I am very slow verbally. Don’t know why. I hate it though. I hate seeing the pity and sadness in their eyes when they realize how I am now. I am sober now and the last thing I need is anyone’s pity. Is there anything I can do to get my IQ back? I am willing to work hard at something if it’s going to get me results.
Read answer →Choice is critical in recovery
My sister is addicted to pain drugs. This morning her boyfriend found her on the floor not breathing with blue lips (actually she was still breathing but just barely and it looked like she wasn’t). He called 911 and they were able to resuscitate her. This is the 3rd time she has accidentally overdosed. If someone was going to keep trying to jump off a bridge we’d out them in a hospital until they weren’t a danger to themselves, even if they didn’t want to be there. My sister doesn’t want treatment right now but she is going to die soon without it – so what’s the difference? How is one form of suicide different from another? The hospital says they can’t take her on unless she agrees to the treatment. Is there anything I can do to get her forced into this?
Read answer →Local Community Treatment Centers
What exactly is a man in his mid 70s who is drinking too much supposed to do. My uncle retired only a couple of years ago but since he did he’s come adrift and all he does every day now is sit in the local hole in the wall bar and drink quarts of beer from mid morning onward. I’ve talked to him about it and he says he knows he’s got a bit of a problem but he doesn’t know what to do about it. He’s a really good man but he’s a bit cranky and set in his ways he’s just not going to do well in any situation with younger people like AA. He’s not well off but he needs some help and I am not sure he should be living on his own really. What can a senior citizen on a pension do when he needs serious help with his drinking?
Read answer →Itching could be a liver dysfunction
If I am really itchy is that a sign that my liver is in trouble? I am a heavy drinker.
Read answer →Marijuana Withdrawal: Get help to get you where you want to go...
I am trying to beat a very long and hard marijuana habit. I have been a heavy smoker since grade 10 and I have been a daily smoker since my first year at college. I am now about to graduate and I need to get my life together. I am trying to quit but I am so used to smoking before bed that I can’t fall asleep if I don’t have at least a couple of tokes. I have not smoked for 3 days now and I probably haven’t slept more than a couple of hours combined since then. I am so tired but I can’t sleep. It is like torture. How long is it going to take before I can sleep without needing to smoke first…?
Read answer →Sit a Vipassana Course and then serve...
I am sitting in my car right now parked in front of a liquor store. I am trying to stop myself from going in but who am I kidding really now that I am here. I wish there was some way I could get banned from drinking alcohol like I have banned myself from the casinos. Off to get vodka now. Ok back now. Time for maybe a little sip from the bottle before I go home. This is fucked up. I know I can’t control myself at all. I need to go somewhere where I won’t be able to get alcohol or drugs and I need to go there for a long time, like years long. Know of anywhere like that, for a person who doesn’t have more than a couple thousand in the bank?
Read answer →Milk Thistle could help your liver...
Are there any herbal supplements or herbal medications out there that actually help alcoholics stop drinking?
Read answer →Is abstinence the only solution? / How much treatment is enough?
I have been to three alcohol treatment programs in the last 6 years. 2 were outpatient programs (1 was court ordered) and 1 was a 28 day rehab program. All programs focused on abstinence as the only possible goal worth working for. I am not abstinent, in fact I am currently quite far from it (haha). Should I take my repeated inability to maintain abstinence as a sign that this type of treatment doesn’t work for me? My drinking is getting out of control again so I think I need to get things in check but I am tired of beating my head against this same brick wall over and over again and expecting different results to come of it. If abstinence based hasn’t worked for me 3 times now should I accept that it’s probably never going to and try to find someone to help me just get things more under control?
Read answer →Disulfiram
My boyfriend is a bad drunk. He always says he wants to stop and hes going to stop but he never lasts more than a few days before hes back drinking again. I know that in his heart he really wants to do better but he just can’t control himself especially after he has even one drink. I know there used to be a medication they gave to alcoholics that made them feel very sick if they drank and so they would not drink. I do not remember what this is called. Do they still give this to alcoholics? Do you know what this medication is called? Would this medication be a good medication for my boyfriend to take, if he really does want to stop drinking but he just can’t control himself?
Read answer →An MD is critical in assessing potential damage from alcohol or drug use
How do I know if I have liver damage from drinking. I do not drink every day but I do get drunk 3 or 4 times a week for about 20 years. Now in the morning after I get drunk my insides kind of hurt but it goes away if I do not drink again.
Read answer →Group Therapy works!
Is individual therapy in rehab important? I am looking at a place for my brother that is all group therapy and AA and stuff. There’s this other place that also has private counseling sessions but it is a lot more expensive. My mom is footing the bill and I am trying to help her make a smart decision.
Read answer →Online counseling does get results!
Can I learn to become a more assertive person through online counseling? I just read an article about assertiveness and I am exactly like they described the non assertive person to be like. I don’t know why I have such a hard time standing up to anyone to get what I want and deserve. It’s just the way I am wired I guess. I am interested in online counseling because I do not have a lot of free time and I am also looking for something that will get me some tangible results in a reasonable length of time.
Read answer →You already know your answer!
synthetic marijuana - aka/herbal incense: Hi5 ?? I would like to know if the above mentioned is harmful to the body and how addictive it is. My friend claims he no longer takes it but I find those little packages tucked away in secret corners in his garage. I'm told by a distributor of herbal incense that it can really 'f' someone's life. First it effects the brain in the 1st yr & guarantees cancer in 10 yrs. My friend gets very irritable, fights over nothing, seems to misunderstand & twist around anything I say to something negative yet other times he is in his own world like in a trance... He is also loosing weight, bad tossing & turning at night. Once he got so sick throwing up and almost passed out & that's when he confessed to me that he was using this herbal incense called Hi5.. please inform me how to help and how bad is it?? thank you...
Read answer →Sobriety: A Physical AND Mental Challenge...
How long does it take before I won’t have to agonize every night on the way home from work about whether or not to stop and pick up a bottle (like I used to do every night on the way home from work?). I am a month sober and doing it on my own after 10 years of drinking way too much and developing some health problems. I have a lot of will power and if I start drinking again I am likely to have a heart attack so I have some good motivation to stay sober. But if I have to fight this battle in my head every night for much longer I know I am going to lose that battle at least once and once I buy that bottle once it won’t be just once, if you know what I mean. Sorry for the confusing question. I just want to know when it’s going to start getting a little easier and when I won’t have to think so much and try so hard to just not do something.
Read answer →Harm Reduction
Are e cigarettes really a safe alternative to regular cigarettes? I have tried so many times to quit smoking and I have never been able to.
Read answer →The proof is in the pudding...
I have pretty much flunked out of my freshman year at college after spending the first semester playing video games and getting high every day. My parents were very angry when I told them the bad news but now they are mostly concerned I guess. They want me to go away to some sort of wilderness drug rehab adventure challenge program for a few months before I try again at college next year. I can see that I really screwed things up bad this year but my parents are mostly worried about my smoking weed but for me the weed is not really a big deal and I can kind of take it or leave it….even if I did mostly take it for the last few months. My parents are really straight and they can’t really understand that smoking weed isn’t really such a big deal. To them drugs are drugs and weed might as well be heroin. I don’t know what to say. I keep telling them that I don’t really need this whole expensive adventure rehab but they keep pointing out my giant failure at school as evidence that I do and that is kind of hard to argue with. I don’t know how to explain to them that I don’t need rehab? How can I make them see that smoking weed everyday for a few months isn’t the end of the world? The people they are talking to at the rehab are telling them that I really would benefit from coming but I am not sure they are totally unbiased here. I feel like my parents need to hear that I don’t need to go from someone they would listen to, like a doctor or someone, but I am not sure who to turn to and our family doctor is pretty old and I am not sure he’d be the best choice for this. Is there some kind of doctor who is neutral that will evaluate my situation and make some sort of recommendations for what I should do? My parents won’t listen to me but if an expert told them that rehab was crazy I think they would listen to him.
Read answer →The answer to your question is 'Tolerance'
My brother is a functional alcoholic. He drinks every night and gets up to go to work 5 days a week. He is visiting right now and last night we shared a case of beers. This is not something I do very often but it is something he does every day. Today I had the worst hangover I can remember ever having in my life. It is 8 in the evening now and I am barely able to take in solid foods even now! My brother has already been drinking for hours and he was up at 8 this morning working on the broken lawnmower I had been complaining about – right as rain. Why can he drink and not get hungover? I am trying to understand why he drinks so much. Do alcoholics become so used to alcohol that they no longer become hung over after drinking. I cannot imagine drinking again for a long while after the way I felt today.
Read answer →Chocolate Milk...
Ever since I quit drinking a month ago I have been doing this really heavy out of control eating. I always drank in the evening right after work until I passed out and now when I get home and sit down to watch Tv I just start eating like crazy and I don’t stop until I am almost sick to my stomach and then I go to bed and I feel terrible. I am gaining a lot of weight and I am almost ready to give up on sobriety because this way of life does not seem to me to be any better. I have just changed one thing for another. How can I stop eating too much without going back to drinking too much.
Read answer →What is the real war on drugs about?
I am interested to know what someone who works as a counselor with drug and alcohol addicted people feels about the war on drugs. In my opinion it’s a tragedy and legalization or decriminalization makes a lot more sense, and the criminalization of a medical issue just creates a lot of unnecessary pain and violence in our society. But then again I don’t have a personal experience with addiction and so maybe I don’t understand the whole story. What do you think? Is decriminalization a sensible idea, or is the drug war a war that needs to be won?
Read answer →SMART Recovery® is all about choice
The whole disease concept of addiction just blows my mind. It’s not as if someone held a gun to my head and forced that Jack down my throat every day for the last 30 years. Went to an AA meeting last night because my wife said she’d leave unless I did. Never met such a bunch of losers in my whole life. What a bunch of crybabies and every one of them blaming ‘the disease’ of alcoholism for their own actions and bad choices. Went home after the meeting and cracked a bottle. Nobody made me do it though. It was my own choice and I accept that. I have some health problems and my doctor is strongly recommending that I quit drinking. I think I will choose to follow his advice and I will stop drinking. I am finding that my habits are hard to change, which is normal after so many decades doing the same thing. My wife is suggesting that I get some professional help and I might do that. But I do not want anyone that is going to be talking that AA voodoo mumbo jumbo. Is there any kind of help for a guy that needs a little help to change his ways but who doesn’t believe in all that praying to a higher power BS and who wants to be in control of his own choices in life?
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