Being Bullied can be helped with Psychoanalytically oriented Psychotherapy

Question

Is it true that people are bullied are sometimes asking for it? I love my brother but I have to admit that he can be pretty annoying and you can tell that he is sort of weak pretty quickly after meeting him. He has been bullied his whole life, at school and now as an adult at work he is still always having problems with people picking on him and he never has anyone to back him up because his habits make it difficult for him to form friendships. It hurts me to watch him have so many problems. Is there some sort of course or therapy he could take or get where he could learn to act in ways that were a little more socially acceptable and so he wouldn’t come across as such a wimp ready for bullying? I want to help him out but I don’t really know how to. I can’t exactly fight his battles for him anymore.

Dr. Shirley Schaye · Accepted Answer

It's hard to say, not knowing your brother, whether he is asking for it or not. I can though say from what you have described that your brother does have problems that if he got himself into the right kind of therapy it would help him enormously. Now, again, I cannot say why your brother behaves the way he does but I can say that the behaviour he exhibits certainly invites people who are sadistic to bully him. The best thing for him would be to enter psychoanalytically oriented psychotherapy that would certainly get to the root of what formed his personality and that kind of therapy will help him work through his masochism. The result will be that that people would no longer pick on him because with the help of psychoanalytically oriented psychotherapy he will present a very different front --- he won't allow people to be sadistic towards him.

I don't know his city, state and zip code but if you send it to me I'll help him find someone with the proper training.

Dr. Shirley Schaye

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