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Sleep: Quality versus Quantity
IS it possible to increase the quality of the sleep I get rather than increase the quantity? If I have x hours to sleep and x hours aren’t really enough I want to make sure that I get as much sleepy goodness juju as possible out of those x house. My bedroom is already dark.
Read answer →What is a fair price for life coaching?
How much is a fair price to pay for a life coach?
Read answer →Helping the young woman who is afraid to be seen
I am very worried about my niece. She was always a little bit shy in high school but she always had friends and she was a really funny person to anyone who got to know her. She was OK looking, kind of pretty even, but she always had acne. I just recently moved back home after 3 years out of the country. I had not seen my niece for probably 6 or 7 years. Now she is in her 20s and stays with my mom and gets paid a little bit to act as a live-in caretaker. She barely leaves the house anymore and she didn’t even want to see me when I came over the first time, I almost had to force my way into her room and she didn’t want me to look at her and she would hide her face with her hair all the time. I saw her face and there is nothing wrong. A little acne, but nothing really but if you hear her describe herself it’s like she is horribly grotesque. She won’t look at herself and she barely leaves the house so no one else will have to see her. If she does go out she tries to go out at night and she always wears this big hooded sweatshirt. It’s really crazy. She still tries to hide her face from me all the time. She has even covered up the mirrors in the hallway. Her parents are both dead and I am the closest family she has. I feel so bad that I haven’t been around to see what was going on with her. I had been told about it but I did not understand the extent of her reclusivity and I guess I was just grateful that she was willing to take care of my mom so I didn’t have to put her in a nursing home and all I had to do was send over a check every month. She obviously needs some help, but I do not know what she needs. What is wrong with her and how can she get better? She has been on her own for too long with this and I want to do right by her now – hopefully it is better late than never.
Read answer →Romantic Feelings For Your Therapist?
What do I do if I am having romantic feelings about my therapist? I have seen her now for 6 sessions and I can’t get her out of my head. I am constantly thinking about her, even though I know that there is no possible way for us to get together romantically (my brain may know this but my heart doesn’t seem to be getting the message). I still find her effective but I am a bit distracted away from my focus on myself to a focus on ‘us’. Should I bring up how I am feeling with her? Will I have to find a new therapist most likely? Is this a common occurrence?
Read answer →Couples Counseling with a Cheater- Yes or No?
My husband cheated on me. He is trying to patch things up and he wants me to agree to go to couples counseling with him. I feel like if I agree to do this with him it means I have agreed to forgive him and it is all about how we will get to reconciliation together. The thing is I am not sure if I want to or am able to forgive him. Should I go to this therapy before I even know what I want?
Read answer →Personal Space- What is your comfort zone?
I get very upset when people enter into my personal space. I also don’t like to be touched at all. The problem is my sense of personal space seems to be larger than what other people consider normal so I am very often feeling u comfortable and I will often get out of situations either by basically running away to get out of the situation or if I stay I often get irritable and make the other person give me more space. This is such a stupid thing but it causes me a lot of social problems. I try to ignore it when someone gets too close but I can’t change how I feel.
Read answer →Can Love Be Addictive?
Can a person get addicted to the feeling of being in love? I think I can never stick it through with a relationship because I so want to feel that new love feeling all the time and it never lasts like that no matter how good the person is I am with at the time.
Read answer →Can "forced" family therapy be successful for reconciliation?
I have liver cancer and my prognosis is not good. I will likely die before the end of the year. I have 2 girls who are now in their 30s. They do not talk to each other because of a lot of family drama that occurred around the time of their mother’s passing a few years ago. One thinks the other is controlling and manipulative and the other thinks her sister is irresponsible and free loading. I am sorry to say that in my opinion they are both right to some degree, but there is so much more that is good and beautiful about each of them. I do not want to die before seeing them reconcile and become family again. I believe I can force them to sit down together with a therapist at least one time. Is reconciliation therapy at all likely to work though if both parties are forced to participate rather unwillingly?
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