Steve McCready
MFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
Sacramento, USA
Answers questions in Anxiety · Counseling · Couples Counseling
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I help nice guys & people pleasers become more confident & assertive so they can improve their lives, work, and relationships.
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She's more likely to listen to a therapist than you
I am embarrassed in a way to even write this question. My daughter is way too serious with her boyfriend. They are both in high school and they are both 17. She is going to college next year and he is not. They are both so young. Now they are fighting so much about what they will do next year and she is very depressed and worried that they will drift apart once she goes away to school. She wants them to go to couples therapy to strengthen the relationship. She has even talked about marrying him before she goes!!! I find the idea insane but she is so distraught and she has been almost hysterically worried and upset for more than a month. To the point where she is losing weight because she can’t eat. I am not sure what to do with her. Should I support this idea? The last thing I want is to see her run off and get married. Would a therapist help them to realize how they need to keep their options open? They do not listen to me anymore. They are just children still. He is a nice enough boy but the whole world awaits her and she needs to see this. I was trying to just let things run their course but I am worried they are going to do something rash.
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I cheated on my wife and I was caught. It almost ended our 12 year marriage and I am so thankful that she is willing to give me a second chance. This happened (my getting caught) just before Christmas. Now we are getting to a point where things are starting to feel more normal again. We are talking and laughing and joking together like we did before the affair and this is really a lot better than how things were in the first couple of months of this year. Now my wife wants to go to marriage counseling to work on our relationship. I feel like all we’re going to be doing is lifting the scab off an old wound and diving back into all that pain and suffering. Also, there is a lot I have not told her about what happened. I do not want to lie to her either. But I cannot imagine that her knowing more details is going to help her or us in any way. Given the situation, would you agree that we should just leave well enough alone?
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