Here's were the work really begins. You can’t get to the fourth step without God's help, and you’re going to need His help ever more as you journey deep inside yourself during this most introspective of steps.
Here we make our fearless and searching moral inventory. Here is where we truly relearn Christian humility, and where our need for the perfection of Christ is perfectly expressed.
We rarely like what we see when we examine the darkest and innermost corners of our beings, but it must be done, and it must be done thoroughly. Without being searching and fearless, the step is of no value, and it is in being searching and fearless, where we sometimes need God's help.
It is often unpleasant to look at ourselves at our worst, but we need to come to grips with out imperfections, and how these imperfections can lead us to relapse. We need to understand how we differ from the perfection of Christ, and why we need His help more than ever.
Prayers for guidance and strength can help a lot.
AA Big Book 4th Step Prayer
God help me to show this person the same tolerance, pity and patience that I would Cheerfully grant a sick friend. This is a sick person, how can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done.
God, relieve me of this fear and direct my attention to what
you would have me be.
Anonymous 4th Step Prayer
Help me to see myself as I truly am
I know I won't always like what I see, so give me the courage to keep going
Grant me understanding, as I need to figure out why I feel the way I do sometimes
God, please fill my heart with compassion. I need forgiveness, but I also need to forgive, and that just doesn’t come easily to me
Please Lord, fill my heart with love. Let me love as You do, so that I may get better and serve You
God, I want to do this right and I need your help today
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