Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- Therapy Orientation:
- Cognitive Behavioral (CBT), Relational Therapy, Family/Marital Therapy, Coaching, Family Systems Therapy, Eclectic
- Age Focus:
- Adults, Any age, Children, Teenagers
- Child or Adolescent Issues, Life Coaching, Spirituality, Parenting, Domestic Abuse or Domestic Violence, Relationship Issues, Finding Your Purpose in Life
- Treatment Modality:
- Couples, Individuals, Families, Groups
- Any Ethnicity
- Sexual Orientation:
- Any Orientation
- Languages Spoken:
- French, Hebrew
- Religious Beliefs:
- Last updated:
- Sep 09, 2012
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- About My Work
If a man has worry in his heart - let him speak of it to another. ~Sanhedrin 100b
Chazal advise us not to bury our pain and trouble inside ourselves. If something is bothering you - whether it's depression or anger, relationship issues, shidduchim, or trouble at work, I can help you work through it.
For many frum people it's hard to imagine going to see a counselor or therapist who isn't frum. On the other hand, in smaller communities this can be difficult, both because of the lack of Orthodox counselors available (especially male ones), and because of the discomfort of discussing your personal life with a person you are likely to see every day in a place where everyone knows each other.
One solution to this quandary is teletherapy - distance counseling. Thanks to Skype and other similar technologies, you can get the help you need from a counselor you can relate to, in a context that maintains the highest levels of confidentiality. I can help you with most any problem you are struggling with in a framework of halacha and frumkeit - and I will also be the first to refer you elsewhere if I feel I cannot be helpful to you.
Please feel free to contact me for more information at Raffi@frumcounselor.com.
--Rabbi Raffi Bilek
- My Story
I was born in Montreal, Canada, and moved to the US as a teenager, where I spent my high school and college years. I went to college at Brown University, where I studied computer science and graduated with honors. After college I spent a year teaching underprivileged children in a school in Brooklyn, and then moved to Israel where I remained for six blessed years.
I have a master's degree in social work from Yeshiva University; I also have semicha from Rabbi Zalman Nechemia Goldberg of the Jerusalem beis din and Rabbi Noach Weinberg, zt''l, of Aish HaTorah. My experience includes work in psychiatric outpatient settings, family therapy institutes, domestic violence units, and community service agencies. I have worked with individuals, couples, and families, with children, teenagers, adults, and the elderly.
I am currently learning masechet Sanhedrin and the commentaries of the Sforno and Ibn Ezra on the Torah. I speak English, Hebrew, French and Spanish. I like playing Scrabble and Bananagrams and telling good (and bad) jokes. I live in Passaic, NJ with two beautiful daughters and a very special wife who supports me in all that I do.
|Years in Practice:||3 Years|
|Graduated from:||Wurzweiler School of Social Work|
|License issued in:||New Jersey|
|License Expiry:||Aug 2014|
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|Accepts Credit Cards:||Yes|
|Online Payments accepted:||Yes|
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Q & A Reply: Facebook Share on Twitter 08:10 - Dec 20, 2012 If you don't like Romans, don't go to Rome.
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Q & A Reply: Facebook Share on Twitter 10:27 - Oct 11, 2012 Things Are Not Always as They Seem
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Q & A Reply: Facebook Share on Twitter 04:37 - Aug 13, 2012 Calling Child Protective Services: Rock and a hard place
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Q & A Reply: Facebook Share on Twitter 09:07 - Aug 06, 2012 Son with behavior issues - what can you do?
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