I Love You and Can't Just Stand There and Let You Destroy Your Life
Dr. Shirley Schaye Says...
I understand your sister's position but her not wanting to bring it up is part of her PTSD. I hear you that she does not want you to bring it up. What I would do is find a nice card where you can write what you are thinking. First tell her how much you love her and care about her and that you understand that she does not want you to tell anyone about this. Say --- UNDERSTOOD!!!!! I'm not telling anyone but I want to tell you that I love you very much and I'm concerned about what is happening to you. Tell her what you told me --- "I can see though that you are not acting like yourself anymore. You are jumpy and irritable all the time and you never want to go out socially anymore." I love you too much to just sit back and see this escalate into a bigger problem. I will go with you to get help. I will do whatever it takes to help you with this horrible trauma. Please understand that I am not breaking your vow. I am only trying to help you with this. I love you too much to just put blinders on.
So write something like this and keep a copy in case she just tears it up and doesn't read it so that should you have to make another attempt to intrude you will have what you have already written.
Dr. Shirley Schaye
Page last updated Aug 27, 2012