Expressing your needs in a relationship
Dr. Lani Chin Says...
It sounds like your partner's needs are getting met while yours get neglected in your relationship. It seems like you're quite lonely and want your partner to pay attention to you and not the women he's talking to on his webcam.
I would suggest having a conversation with him about what you're needing and wanting from the relationship. If you cannot do this or you feel like he doesn't understand, I would recommend couples counseling. You could both benefit from an open and honest conversation about what an ideal relationship would be for the both of you.
If your partner does not want to go to couples counseling, I would suggest individual therapy for you so you can begin to understand why it is important for you to put the needs of others before your own. You call yourself a caregiver...I think it would be good for you to explore what that means to you and how that affects you in this relationship.
Good luck to you. If you are in the Los Angeles area, I would be happy to help you: www.drlanichin.com or you can go online and find someone local.
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