Take My Wife...Please
Jim LaPierre Says...
Hi there and thanks for your question. It's good to hear from folks who struggle with female partners - we hear more often about men and alcohol. You were not at all wrong to show her the truth about her behavior. You did her a very loving and honorable service. The difficulty is - what will she be willing to do with her new found awareness. Active alcoholics tend to accept very little if any responsibility for their hurtful behavior. I encourage you to focus on your needs and the needs of the children.
Trying to push an active alcoholic to change is an exercise in futility - all we can offer is the truth and our support in them choosing to heal and do the right thing. Nothing changes if nothing changes.
I am a huge believer in Al Anon and Nar Anon as supports for the loved ones of those in addiction. I hope you will seek support for yourself regardless of what your partner chooses.
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