The Tears of a Clown
Jim LaPierre Says...
Hey there - thanks for your excellent question. My heart goes out to you - I know how hard it is to not enable someone you love. I want to affirm that you are doing the RIGHT thing by offering only the driveway. Enabling an addict/alcoholic happens when we protect them fro the natural consequences of their behavior. Your brother has arrived exactly where his addiction has taken him. It's hard to tell sometimes how close a person is to hitting bottom. It's unique to each individual. It seems your brother has a ways to go. Just remind him that you're there, you're concerned, and you're prepared to be supportive when he decides to make changes.
The title above is the name of a Smokey Robinson song - it explains your brother's behavior well.
"now if I appear to be carefree
It's only to camouflage my sadness
In order to shield my pride I try
To cover this hurt with a show of gladness."
You're doing the right thing. I hope and pray he decides to choose a better life soon. Please let me know if I can answer more questions or be helpful - Best, Jim
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