Compulsive Picking: Finding out the benefits

I suggest you look at what benefit you get out of picking, even as you know your hands look like raw hamburger and causes embarrassment. Does it put people off and allow you to maintain distance? Does it give you a sense of safety that people will not want to have any sort of intimate [not only sexual, but friendship] relationship? What does picking your fingers do for you? How does it make you feel/what body sensation[s] do you have when you have finished picking? Then also ask yourself, what are to downfalls or costs to you because you pick your nails to extreme rawness? the answer lies somewhere within you.

And once you have figured out what the issue may be [even if not totally positive] seek help from someone who works well with people who have tendencies toward self-harmful coping techniques with some obsessiveness about your ritual. Also, someone who is both a therapist who is comfortable in using EFT or other energy techniques in the course of the therapeutic alliance might be of great benefit to you.

Best of luck. Connie