Too Lean in TN
Rob Danzman Says...
We often see clients make big changes and then the family members and friends are caught off-guard. Sometimes those behavioral changes (like starting to use drugs regularly) dramatically change the person in very negative ways. Sometimes, the changes are positive for the person but the family and friends are either not prepared or flat-out disagree with the lifestyle change. Ultimately, the best you and your siblings can do is let him know that you support is healthy lifestyle but also are concerned that it may be too much. It's very appropriate to share your concern. It's also very appropriate for him to have the 'thanks, but no thanks' response. If he FEELS content, if he FEELS good, support him. Make it clear, though, that if he ever starts having concerns about his eating or dietary habits, you will be there for him. There may also be other stuff going on that he has not shared with you. If you push too much, he may not share. If you provide that nurturing, non-judgmental support, he will open-up when he's ready.
In the meantime, don't secretly add extra butter to meals you're making during family events and encourage others to be positive rather than judgmental. Any back-handed ways of trying to control him will likely backfire.
Good luck with this.
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