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How to Git a Girl

answered 12:10 PM EST, Fri September 21, 2012
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Can therapy help me get better at getting girls? I am girl getting retarded at the moment and I'm not getting any unless I break down and decide that I do want to pay for it after all. Is there such a thing as pick up counseling? This sounds frivolous but for me it is actually a very big problem. I am alone and miserable.

Lita Perna Says...

Lita Perna L. Perna
MA, Family and Community Counseling

Yes, there is ‘pick up counseling’ but it’s not called that.

You may not need counseling.

You do need to change the way you think about girls and you have to be willing to work at it.

And no, this doesn’t sound frivolous. 

You say you’re ‘not getting any’ and you also say you’re ‘alone and miserable’.

You have to decide what’s more important, sex or a relationship.

(I know you want sex but do you also want more?)

If you work on the relationship part sex may follow. It will be called ‘making love’. 

If you want a relationship you have to start from the inside out while you’re working on your outside in.

How’s your grooming?…weight?…social skills?… manners?

Are you polite? Girls like polite guys because they are special and stand out from the rest of the pack.

Do you avoid trash talk and bragging?

Do you treat girls with respect? Do you show interest in them as people first?

Do you ask them questions about themselves? Are you kind? Do you show your tender side?

Do you look them in the eye when you talk to them? 

(Secret trick: Notice spmething special about a girl. Like her. Appreciate her. A sincere compliment with a little smile could melt the right girl's heart. Hint: Don't compliment a body part.)

Girls sense when a guy just wants them for one thing.

Keep your attention on their neck up when you're talking to them.

Change your focus to appreciating the girl front of you instead of imagining her under you. 

P.S. You can also find books about this topic.

P.S. You don't say if you're 16 or 86 but it doesn't matter. The same advice applies.

P.S. This question has been asked in a thousand different ways since time began.

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