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Everything is Temporary & Screw Guilt

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answered 10:59 AM EST, Mon January 13, 2014
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I have a choice to find a sober living home that my 8 year old daughter can stay with me or to leave her with her grandparents for a few more months until I get back on my feet. She wants to be with me and I miss her so much but my parents think it is too hard on her and me to move her around before I am really ready for her. I can barely think straight still cause I am only 3 weeks clean off meth so I really do not know what to do. I was a mom on meth trying to juggle all the balls in the air until they came crashing down all at once. She is my angel and I have to spend the rest of my life making up to her for everything she had to go through already so I don’t want to make a mistake right away.

Jim LaPierre Says...

Thank you for your question - your love for your daughter comes through loud and clear and your desire to do what's best for her i awesome. I also hear a LOT of guilt in your words - while I don't fault you for that I do say that when we make decisions and parent based on guilt or fear...t just doesn't work out well.

I want to encourage you to take things slowly and view them as temporary moves and decisions. Your daughter's needs and stability come first. Now - I'm going to share with you something I say to a lot of moms and it usually either makes thm angry or they blow it off - but please hear me - YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU

I know - it's hard to hear that but it's vital. You taking a few months to improve the foundation of your recovery will benefit you and your daughter for a lifetime. It's worth it. She's worth it. You're worth it.

Prayers being sent your way. Go kick ass in your program



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